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Makeup Must-Haves For The Super-Pale

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Women with extremely pale skin are finally having their moment in the sun again (well, metaphorically speaking), thanks to gorgeously translucent celebrities like Dita von Teese, Emma Stone, Rooney Mara, the Fanning sisters, and Cate Blanchett, to name a few. They don’t seem to feel the need to turn themselves orange to be beautiful, and they really know how to make their red-carpet beauty looks work with their fair skin.

There is, after all, a certain amount of effort involved in maintaining pale skin. Not only is it important to wear at least SPF 30 every day to protect your complexion, but it can often be a headache trying to find the right makeup. It can be hard to find a shade of blush or lipstick that won’t look clownish against fair skin, and things like foundation and bronzer often look fine in the store but then quickly take on an orange cast on the skin.

If you’ve ever bemoaned the fact that nobody makes makeup for vampires, don’t worry: They do, and we put together a roundup of the best cosmetics for super-pale ladies as well as some handy tips. Read on — and don’t forget the SPF, of course.

At first, we were puzzled by this translucent powder’s slightly blue tint: Would it make us look like an Avatar? Our fears were quickly erased after the first use. Not only does it absorb oil like a traditional translucent powder, but its pale, icy pigments brighten light complexions with a subtle glow.

The Estee Edit The Flash Photo Powder, $32, available at Sephora.

A general rule of thumb for luminizers? Pearlescent tones tend to look best on fair-skin, while peach or gold-based tones often best suited for darker skin. This self-adjusting illuminating cream breaks that rule—though it looks slightly gold out of the tube, it blends to a light highlight that makes fair skin radiate without looking robotic.

Peter Thomas Roth 24K Gold Pure Luxury Lift & Firm Prism Cream, $42, available at Sephora.

If a pearlescent sheen makes you nervous, try out a glowing primer that can stand alone as a no-makeup base or offer a hint of light that peeks through whatever you put on top.

Shiseido Skin Glow Enhancing Primer SPF 15, $30, available at Nordstrom.

NARS' Radiant Creamy Concealer is bound to become a holy-grail item for anyone who tries it, but it is particularly ideal for those with tricky skin tones and textures. It comes in a wide range of shades, from chantilly to cacao. Chantilly is described as a “true ivory shade for the fairest complexions,” so if you are so pale your skin is practically transparent, this is the concealer for you.

For those with a slight hint of pink in their skin tone, go up one shade to vanilla for a good match. The best part about this concealer is that, as the name promises, it will make your skin look lit from within. It’s very easy for pale skin to look flat and dry when made up, but this concealer imparts a subtle shimmer (without resorting to flecks of glitter or any horrors of that kind) and glides smoothly onto even the most dehydrated skin.

NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer in Chantilly, $28, available at NARS.

Photo: Courtesy of NARS.

If you’re on a budget, Maybelline Fit Me Concealer is a great drugstore option that is comparable to NARS'. It only comes in six shades, but the lightest — fair — is extremely light, and the formula has a fairly creamy consistency.

Maybelline Fit Me Concealer, $6.99, available at Ulta Beauty.

Those prone to dark circles under their eyes can easily get in on the color-correcting trend thanks to Lancôme's editor-approved concealer. It has a yellow cast to diffuse purple tones and brighten up even the fairest complexions. Just pat under the eyes after foundation for an instant lift.

Lancôme Maquicomplet Complete Coverage Concealer in Correcteur, $31, available at Sephora.

Concealer should go on after foundation for full coverage, but foundation can be incredibly frustrating for those with extremely pale skin. Discoloration from acne scars or sunspots, as well as skin conditions like rosacea (or even just normal ruddiness), often stand out more clearly against fair skin.

L'Oréal True Match Lumi Healthy Luminous in Porcelain, $12.95, available at L'Oréal.

Photo Courtesy of L'Oreal

Many BB creams are often too sheer or orange, so those with very pale skin are probably going to be better off looking for a medium-coverage foundation from a line that offers a variety of shades, such as NARS Sheer Glow Foundation (17 shades), L’Oréal True Match Lumi Healthy Luminous Makeup (15 shades), or Clinique Even Better Makeup (a whopping 30 shades).

NARS Sheer Glow Foundation, $45, available at NARS.

Remember to look for a foundation that is sheer enough to let your freckles show through if you have them — freckles are too adorable to cover up — and that doesn’t oxidize after a few hours’ wear. Wearing a primer under your makeup can help to prevent oxidization. It’s also best to wear sunscreen under your foundation or even choose a foundation that already has SPF, to better preserve your porcelain skin — both the Clinique and L’Oréal foundations have an SPF of at least 20.

Clinique Even Better Foundation, $27, available at Clinique.

If you do want to use an alphabet cream, though, this one is a good choice. Not only does it have great coverage, but it has an SPF of 50 to protect your skin.

It Cosmetics Your Skin But Better CC+ Cream with SPF 50+, $38, available at It Cosmetics.

Finally, if you simply can’t find a foundation that’s light enough (or if you find one with a great formula but not-so-great shade range), you can easily tweak it to your liking by adding some MAC Face And Body Foundation in White. It is literally pure white, so by mixing this with a too-dark foundation, truly pale girls can create their own perfect shade.

MAC Face and Body Foundation in White, $38, available at MAC.

Many pale women shy away from blush out of fear of looking clownish because it can stand out so starkly against fair skin tones. This can be a mistake, because a bit of color on one’s cheeks does a world of good for just making one appear alive. The key is to find the right shade of blush for you. As professional makeup artist Kristina Johnson (who has very pale skin herself) says, “Make sure you have color on your cheeks, but be careful with blushes and bronzers that are too dark or orange.”

Sonia Kashuk Beautifying Blush in Flushed, $9.79, available at Target.

Try soft, sheer shades of pink first — Bobbi Brown Blush is the best for a natural-looking flush of color, offering a wide variety of shades to choose from. Johnson also recommends trying to match or coordinate your cheek color to your lip color (that is, warm-toned pink lipstick with a warm-toned pink blush).

Bobbi Brown Blush in Apricot, $26, available at Bobbi Brown.

Photo: Courtesy of Bobbi Brown.

As Johnson pointed out, many pale women fall into the trap of using bronzer that is too dark or orange for their skin tone. It happens to the best of us. Even bronzers that look innocent enough in their packaging at the store can wind up turning orange once on your face.

Possibly the best bronzer for the fair-skinned is Too Faced Chocolate Soleil Matte Bronzer. It comes in two shades: the fairest of the fair will probably want to stick to the light/medium hue, but most pale women should have no problem even with the darker shade, medium/dark. It is a true brown, with no hint of orange whatsoever, and it goes on sheer enough that it would be difficult to overdo it. Oh, and the best part about this bronzer? It actually smells like a chocolate bar (without making you look like you rubbed one all over your face).

Too Faced Chocolate Soleil Matte Bronzer in Medium/Deep, $30, available at Too Faced.

Photo: Courtesy of Too Faced.

For a bit of contouring, simply use your finger to swipe a line under your cheekbones to your temples, and then buff it in thoroughly with a kabuki brush. That last step is key for a soft look that won’t be too harsh or obvious.

Charlotte Tilbury Filmstar Bronze And Glow, $68, available at Violet Grey.

If powder bronzers appear too intimidating, opt for a cream formula — it's far easier to blend and buff to a natural finish.

RMS Beauty Buriti Bronzer, $28, available at Sephora.

Creating a contoured look that appears subtle and natural can be a challenge — especially for those with fair skin. Instead of playing with palettes, simply opt for this tried-and-true makeup-artist secret: Contour with foundation a shade darker than your skin tone.

Bobbi Brown Moisture Rich Foundation SPF 15, $50, available at Nordstrom.

We also love this trick involving a mineral-powder foundation formula, which makes the process even more foolproof because the powder will blend easily over any foundation.

Picking the shade is half the battle, which is why we love Tarte's formula. It comes in 15 shades, eight of which are for fair skin, with each one suited for a different undertone. The build-in netting also lends a helpful touch, since it allows the user to get the lightest application possible. Just dip a big, fluffy brush into the jar, swirl, tap off excess, and dust it on.

Tarte Amazonian Clay Full Coverage Airbrush Foundation, $36, available at Sephora.

If you do want to pick up a palette, however, you're not totally out of luck. While contour palettes well-suited for fair skin are few and far between, they do exist.

Our favorite is a recent offering from celeb makeup artist Fiona Stiles. The formula is incredibly sheer — which makes application foolproof — and the hues create light shadows without leaving behind telltale shimmer. Simply dust a little under the cheekbones and anywhere else you want to create depth.

Fiona Stiles Sheer Sculpting Palettes in Light, $28, available at Ulta.

Highlighter is at least somewhat easier for pale women than bronzer or contour, since it is usually quite sheer and light-toned. When choosing the right highlighter, one must consider three things: shimmer, opacity, and undertones. Usually highlighters come with pink, gold, or silver undertones; whichever one you pick depends mostly on whether your skin tone is warm or cool.

Just beware of golden or peach-toned highlighters that can sometimes veer into orange territory on pale skin. Sonia Kashuk Chic Luminosity Highlighter Stick in Sparkling Sands is the best sheer, cool-toned option, while Becca Shimmering Skin Perfector is perfect for a warm glow that won’t read orange even on the palest of faces.

Becca Shimmering Skin Perfector in Opal, $41, available at Becca.

Photo: Courtesy of Becca.

Nude lipsticks can be tricky for every skin tone, but those with very pale skin have to be especially careful when looking for the right shade. Too pale and you’ll look completely washed out; too dark and, well, then it no longer has the desired effect of a nude lipstick. The right nude lippie for you might include notes of peach or pink — you don’t want it to be completely colorless, but do try to avoid any brown or orange in your lipstick.

Alexa Chung recently confessed her love for the nude shades of Yves Saint Laurent Rouge Volupte lipstick and, considering she's the reigning queen of the cat-eye-and-nude-lip look, you know she wouldn’t steer you wrong. Yves Saint Laurent Rouge Volupte in Nude Beige is the top choice: just the right hint of pink, a creamy formula, and beautiful packaging. Much like tracking down that perfect red lipstick, however, it can sometimes take a while to find a nude lipstick that works best for you.

Yves Saint Laurent Rouge Volupte Lipstick in Nude Beige, $35, available at Sephora.

Photo: Courtesy of Sephora.

If you’d like to spend less money in your trial-and-error phase, E.L.F. Matte Lip Color in Nearly Nude and L’Oréal Colour Riche in Fairest Nude are both excellent options for pale girls on a budget.

E.L.F. Matte Lip Color in Nearly Nude, $3, available at E.L.F.

Red lipstick can also be challenging for the fair-skinned, but for the opposite problem: The contrast can look so striking that it can be a little startling if you’re not used to it. A good starter red lipstick for pale women is Revlon Colorburst Matte Balm in Standout. Not only is it affordable and easy to use, but it is a perfect true, blue-based red that looks amazing with fair complexions.

Revlon Colorburst Matte Balm in Standout, $5.84, available at Target.

Photo: Courtesy of Target.

While reds are bold, some can be a bit boring. Opt for a berry with blue undertones to up your lip game in seconds.

NARS Velvet Matte Lip in Damned, $27, available at Sephora.

Most fair-skinned ladies aren’t reaching for navy blue shadows and deep, dark purples for every day, so to make your eyes pop on the regular you need a great, soft shade. ColourPop’s Fringe is the perfect champagne hue that can be used all over the lid for a soft highlight if you’re feeling sparkly, or, when used strategically, it can give you that perfect glow just where you need it.

Place a bit in the inner corners of the eyes or line just your lower lash line with this gorgeous hue for a touch of color. Or, if you’ve used a black liquid liner already, add an extra dose of shine by adding this to your inner rim.

ColourPop Eye Shadow in Fringe, $5, available at ColourPop.

If you’re pale and wondering which of the much-hyped Urban Decay Naked Palettes to purchase, we’ve got your answer. The general guidelines for wearing eyeshadow when pale are that darker shades can impart a too-harsh, bruised look, while pink or red shades will make you look tired or even ill. (And, of course, nude shades may simply blend in to your skin completely.)

For this reason, pale women will most likely get the most mileage out of Naked 2, which has an ideal mix of taupe and gray-beige hues that will be particularly flattering to cooler skin tones. Of course, you can be pale and also have a warm skin tone, in which case Naked 1 might be the better choice. What if you’re not sure if you’re cool-toned or warm-toned? Well, first, join the club. And, then consider trying Naked 3, which contains many rose-gold hues that are considered to be universally flattering.

Urban Decay Naked2 Palette, $54, available at Urban Decay.

Photo: Courtesy of Urban Decay.

Stila Stay All Day Liquid Eyeliner is a cult favorite for a reason: It’s easy to apply and lives up to its name by never smudging. But, black eyeliner can often look too harsh on those with extremely fair skin.

Luckily, Stila provides this excellent eyeliner in 15 different shades, so you can see if brown or even gray are less jarring options for you. Another tip for the more daring: Try applying a shade of blue or green in a thin line on your upper lashline for a subtle, but pretty, alternative to black eyeliner.

Stila Stay All Day Liquid Eyeliner in Rich Chocolate, $20, available at Stila.

Photo: Courtesy of Stila.

Well-groomed brows are an integral part of any woman’s beauty look, and that goes double for pale women. If you are pale with fair hair, you’ll likely want to give your brows a bit of extra definition. And, if you have darker hair, you should embrace the striking contrast of dark brows against fair skin.

MAC recently came out with the MAC Pro Longwear Waterproof Brow Set in six different shades, from Emphatically Blonde to Brown Ebony, so no matter what shade your brows are, you can easily fill them in and define them for the entire day.

MAC Pro Longwear Waterproof Brow Set, $17, available at MAC.

Photo: Courtesy of MAC.

Many fair-skinned ladies opt for jet-black mascara to ensure that their often almost invisible lashes are not to be missed. But, while we won’t knock a great bold lash look every now and again, sometimes a soft, subtle brown mascara is just what the doctor ordered for an everyday look.

Benefit They're Real! Lengthening & Volumizing Mascara, $24, available at Sephora.

Especially when you’re of the pale variety, brown mascara can go a long way in highlighting your long lashes without making them appear like spider legs. Try Clinique’s Lash Power Feathering Mascara in Dark Chocolate, which is great at separating the lashes and giving them some extra oomph, but will also give you just the right amount of eye-opening lash for day.

Clinique Lash Power Feathering Mascara in Dark Chocolate, $17.50, available at Clinique.

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A Week In San Francisco On A $60,000 Salary

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Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennial women how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar. (Thanks,New York mag , for the inspiration.)

This week, an events manager working in technology who makes $60,000 per year and who saves on a daily commute and gym membership thanks to her apartment building.

Industry: Tech

Age: 27

Location: San Francisco, CA

Salary: $60,000.00

Paycheck Amount (2x month): $1,705.29

Gender Identity: Female

Monthly Expenses

Monthly Housing Costs: $1,300.00. Split somewhat evenly with my boyfriend. The entire apartment is $2,700.

Monthly Loan Payments: My parents paid 100% of my college tuition.

Credit Card Payments: $550

Travel Savings: $250

Savings: $700

Utilities: $0. My boyfriend pays the electric and water bill (usually around $160) because he makes a lot more than I do, over $120,000.

Transportation: $0 (I work remotely from my apartment's lounge area)

Phone Bill: $0, I'm on a family plan with my parents

Health Insurance: $0, completely covered by my company

Dental Insurance: $13.99

Day One

11:30 a.m. — My boyfriend and I land at the airport after a two week trip to Japan. We're dying for some caffeine after an 11 hour flight from Beijing, so we stop by a Starbucks for two grande iced coffees. I pay. $5.90

12:30 p.m. — We skip out on taking an Uber from the airport to our apartment in Oakland. It would cost us upwards of $50. We opt to take the BART instead. It's only a 45 minute ride, plus, the BART station is up the block from our apartment, so we have zero excuses. $9.80

6:30 p.m. — To make up for eating out every single day during our trip, we decide to put together a meal plan for the rest of the week. We take a trip to the supermarket to buy milk, loads of vegetables, and fruit. My boyfriend lives for Costco, so he tells me we'll go to buy our meat tomorrow to avoid overpaying at our local supermarket. I always pay for the local supermarket and he pays for the Costco goods. $44.10

8:00 p.m. — We decide we're “too jetlagged” to be preparing a meal tonight, so we place a takeout order for Thai food. We order a green curry chicken entree, eggplant and peppers entree, and a side of brown rice. I pay because he practically paid for everything on our trip. $27.65

Daily Total: $87.45

Day Two

7 a.m. — I wake up and make some eggs and coffee before my daily 7:30 a.m. video call with my team on the East Coast. I eat and drink while mapping out the day with my coworkers. I head downstairs to the gym. I don't have a gym membership because my building has a gym and offers free yoga classes on Mondays and Wednesdays in the yoga studio.

12:30 p.m. — I start getting hungry, so I head upstairs to my apartment to reheat the leftovers from last night's Thai dinner for lunch.

6:30 p.m. — I'm done with my work and I need a pedicure so badly. I sneak in a FaceTime with my parents back home on my way to the salon. $29

7:30 p.m. — I get home and get started with dinner from the meal plan we created. On the menu, we have turkey kofte, Brussels sprouts, and eggplant spread. Healthy is the week's trend.

9:30 p.m. — I take a much-needed bath, complete with a bath bomb. Within an hour, I am knocked out on my couch. I'm still super jetlagged.

Daily Total: $29

Day Three

7 a.m. — I roll out of bed for my daily meeting. I make coffee and sit down to work, then I realize the team skips the meetings on Fridays. YAY. I crawl back into bed for 30 more minutes of sleep.

9:30 a.m. — We head to Costco, because I can finish my work later (the perks of working from home). We buy some produce, ground turkey, salmon, and bulgogi for tonight's dinner. The total is $191.90, and my boyfriend pays.

5:30 p.m. — As I'm wrapping up work, my friend sends me a link to an Alexander Wang bag I just purchased on sale. I decide to head to Nordstrom to return it. The sales girl tells me it's on sale for $357. I make $652 back, but now I'm debating buying a backpack instead. My boyfriend tells me to think about it, so I walk away… and consult my friends via text.

8:30 p.m. — I'm back at my apartment to make dinner. I make bulgogi and a Korean lettuce salad to go along with it. It's so bomb.

11:30 p.m. — We decide to scare ourselves by watching The Conjuring 2 on our couch. Bad idea. I end up falling asleep at 3 a.m.

Daily Total: $0

Day Four

3:30 p.m. — Whoa. We just both rolled out of bed, the jet lag has really caught up to us today. I make scrambled eggs and drink some espresso. I force myself to head to the gym, I'm not letting my streak end.

6 p.m. — My best friend talks me out of the backpack purchase and into buying the bag I just returned back for the sale price. I call to find out if it's still at the store, it's gone. I buy the bag back off the website. $390

8 p.m. — My boyfriend and I head into San Fransisco to watch a movie. We decide on Moana. I buy the snacks (pretzels and cookies) and he buys the tickets. $9.49

11:00 p.m. — We're super hungry when we walk through the door, so I quickly whip up rotini with turkey ragu.

Daily Total: $399.49

Day Five

6:30 a.m. — I roll out of bed to get ready to drive my boyfriend to a 10K race in Marin. He makes me an espresso to-go. I need it!

9 a.m. — I head to Starbucks to finish the work I never got around to on Friday. I pick up a cheese stick and order an iced peach green tea to tide me over, because we're going to get brunch after he runs the 10K. $4.40

12:30 p.m. — I scoop him up and we're off to wait in line for brunch. We decide on the one with the shortest wait, 45 minutes. I treat. $63.98

3 p.m. — We head to the beach for a stroll. It's a really nice day.

5 p.m. — We run by Target for some home goods. He pays.

Daily Total: $68.38

Day Six

7 a.m. — I roll out of bed and pop in a cup for an espresso. I rush to jot down my notes for my morning meeting and try to look presentable at the same time.

10 a.m. — I head downstairs to the apartment's office/lounge area to get started on work. I push a few buttons on the (free) coffee/espresso/latte/mocha/basically whatever you want machine in the office and get a vanilla latte.

1:30 p.m. — I'm feeling a little "hangry," so I decide to walk over to the Mexican spot across the street. I order two carne asada tacos and a horchata. $5.50

6 p.m. — I wrap up work and FaceTime my parents and sister. I'll be going home in two weeks, so my sister and I make plans to go to a handful of restaurants while I'm in NYC.

7 p.m. — I head to the studio for yoga.

8:30 p.m. — I resort to making a fast dinner — pizza! I make an arugula, orange, and shaved pecorino romano salad to go along with it. I decide I'm really getting good at this cooking thing.

Daily Total: $5.50

Day Seven

7 a.m. — Same routine as yesterday, I make an espresso and join my team for our daily call.

11 a.m. — I walk over to my dentist appointment. There's a co-pay. I leave knowing that I have to spend $295 the next time I come in. I must stop eating candy! $30

12:30 p.m. — I eat leftover pizza for lunch and start working on an event coming up on Friday.

6:30 p.m. — My apartment complex periodically hosts events with food and drinks. I decide not to make dinner and get down on some free catered food.

8:30 p.m. — My boyfriend and I use the yoga room to do an “insanity” workout. I try so hard to keep up.

9:30 p.m. — I prep dinner for the next day, chicken fajitas.

Daily Total: $30

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Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka Hosted A Chopped-Themed Playdate For Their Twins

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With a dad who loves to eat and a dad who loves to cook, it's hard to imagine a world in which Gideon and Harper Burtka-Harris grow up not loving food. Over the past six years, we've seen these twins eat everything from ramen to oysters on their dads' Instagram accounts, but it looks like they recently got to try their tiny hands at the cooking side of things at a playdate that blew all others out of the water.

Last week, David Burtka posted a collage of photos from a very special Chopped Junior -inspired playdate he organized for his six-year-old twins and their pals. In the captions, he wrote, "Last week we had a Chopped Jr competition at our house. I was so impressed with the kids. They worked so well together and really had great ideas. @nphfoodporn @nph was our judge. He got to try all the wonderful creations. Maybe next time we can get @thetedallen to host! #choppedjunior @foodnetwork " Seeing the post immediately made us wish we had been invited to participate. It really seems like the best possible way to encourage creativity and fun and check out how excited Neil Patrick Harris looks as he's served up a dish.

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During a recent interview with People at the South Beach Wine & Food Festival, Harris gave even more details about the elaborate playdate. He explained that each team of three kids got a their very own impressive mentor: Burtka’s culinary assistant Susan and Michael Symon‘s sous chef. Yep, this is what if feels like to be jealous of six-year-olds. The father of two, of course, tried to be a fair judge, giving Harper's team first prize for plating and naming Gideon's best overall. He admitted that one of the things that put his son's team over-the-top was their nacho dish. NPH said, "I was really impressed that they remembered I loved nachos so much — it’s kind of my kryptonite." It sounds like Gideon really knows his audience. Smart strategy, kid.

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You Won't Believe How Many Stars Chopped Their Hair Over The Weekend

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There must have been something in the water out there in celebrity-land this past weekend, at least as far as hair switch-ups go. If you don’t know what we’re talking about, we really don’t blame you — after all, there was one particularly shocking event at the Oscars that may have been a little, um, distracting. (You could also describe it as unprecedented, unbelievable, heart-stopping, or an emotional rollercoaster for everyone involved and those watching at home. But maybe that's just us.)

Despite all of that industry drama, we happened to notice a handful of big beauty changes, too, particularly in the hair department. Either stylists were feeling scissors-happy or the stars themselves were feeling adventurous, but it looks like everyone and their costar stepped out with a new look. Some were temporary styles, others were in it for the long haul — but each one of them was worth noting... even if they did get totally overshadowed by slightly more history-making events.

What’s more, this year's Academy Awards red carpet wasn’t the only place we spotted the new ‘dos. We also saw them on the runway, in our Instagram feeds, and even at the Film Independent Spirit Awards — because believe it or not, there was another awards show that went down this weekend. (That one, on the other hand, seems to have gone off without a hitch.)

Whether you want a second look at Janelle Monae’s choppy pixie or just feel like Nina Dobrev’s short, wavy bob could be the haircut of your dreams, click through the slides ahead to check out the 12 must-see hair changes you may have missed this past weekend. Trust us, you don't want to miss 'em.

When given the choice between going big or going home at last night’s Oscars, Halle Berry clearly chose to max out. The actress’s longtime hairstylist, Castillo, told InStyle that he chopped five inches off Berry’s hair right before the awards show, and used her natural texture as a base for the voluminous “curly, powerful asymmetrical ‘fro.”

Photo: Steve Granitz/WireImage.

Brow-grazing bangs are a whole new look for Orange Is the New Black star Natasha Lyonne, who wore the fringe straight and blunt at the Film Independent Spirit Awards.

Photo: Araya Diaz/Getty Images.

Bella Hadid’s bright red streaks at the Versace runway show may not be an omen that clip-in color is about to have a revival, but it did help emphasize the collection’s punky, Hot Topic-goes-high fashion vibes.

Photo: Victor Boyko/Getty Images.

Gigi Hadid got her own set of clip-ins for the show, in a vivid canary yellow that worked surprisingly well with her current shade of bronde.

Photo: Venturelli/WireImage.

Michelle Williams has stuck to her signature pixie for years now, but the look she showed off on the Oscars red carpet seemed more close-cropped than ever. Her bright platinum color and piece-y texture helped keep the style fresh and modern.

Photo: Kevin Mazur/Getty Images.

Janelle Monae frequently pulls off masterful hair switch-ups, but her choppy Oscars pixie cut is hands-down one of our favorites.

Photo: John Shearer/Getty Images.

Short, sleek hair is Rooney Mara’s red carpet calling card, so this boyishly cropped ‘do is a return to her usual after a brief stint with longer looks.

Photo: Alberto E. Rodriguez/WireImage.

We’re willing to bet that most people who saw this shot pop up on Kylie Jenner’s Instagram didn’t even notice her new — albeit temporary — blunt bangs situation.

Photo: Kylie Jenner/Instagram

Viola Davis may have taken home the award for Best Actress, but her soft, sideswept bangs definitely stole the show.

Photo: George Pimentel/FilmMagic.

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The short, wavy bob Alicia Vikander debuted at the Oscars perfectly bridges the gap between Old Hollywood and of-the-moment vibes.

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As wonderful and rewarding as being a mother is, there are sure to be moments that make you question your sanity and wonder how the hell anyone has gotten through motherhood, ever.

When Australian blogger and mother Constance Hall hit this point, she asked her father how her grandmother had dealt with 11 children. In a now-viral Facebook post, Hall wrote about her father's response, and how it exposed the pressures that modern mothers have to contend with.

"Once after having 1 child I asked my dad how on earth my nanna did it with 11?" she wrote. "My dad responded that she wasn't given half the pressures I was."

"She didn't have to go to the bank, the supermarket everyday, she wasn't expected to look a million bucks straight after birth and she never put pressure on her kids to have reached all of their miles stones by the age of 3 weeks, have the house clean and own a thermomix," she continued. "She just hung out with her kids and enjoyed them."

Hall also pointed to the pressures and responsibilities of our modern life as a distractor from spending time with our children and being present with them.

"To go to the gym, answer that email, pay that bill, cook that organic kale, blend it, get it into a patty so no one knows it's kale, get to the doctors.... The washing! Petrol in the car.... colour your god dam greys! Make the kids lunches cos if you order them again you will be JUDGED!" she wrote. "Meanwhile we are losing the time to be present with our children, half listening to them, preoccupied, nodding along while our brains are thinking 'fuck now Video Easy is taking legal action on that $12 fine.'"

While moms shouldn't have to feel guilty for being busy or preoccupied, Hall's post makes a great point about how much we judge and shame mothers if they don't seem to "have it all," or even have it all together. Of course, moms like Hall's grandmother had their own struggles, just as moms today have their own unique pressures. What matters in the end, as she wrote, is taking a breather every once in a while to truly enjoy your time with your kids.

"Today I woke up with a desire to take a deep breath and let it all go, I don't really care about the new blinds I had ordered or making the house decent so that my mates don't think I've lost the plot," she wrote. "But I really care about my time with my kids and how they feel about themselves. And I'm not going to let outside pressures and "Super mum" ideals take that away from me."

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Forget freaks and vampires: When it comes to beauty rituals, it’s our inner princesses who come out at night. It’s then that we languidly soak in tubs of skin-nourishing oils and mind-quieting aromatics and casually delve into nine-step Korean-inspired skin-care regimens. The mornings, on the other hand? Well, in that our hour of groggy discontent, count us lucky if we can brush our teeth before getting out the door in time.

While most of us know that, as a minimum, we should slap some SPF on our skin before heading out into the day, fewer of us are keyed into the idea that other airborne nanoparticles (like smog, cigarette smoke, soot, pollen, water droplets, and pollutants) contribute to aging skin. Research has shown that polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAH) cling to these airborne nanoparticles, where they are converted to quinones — which can age the skin in the same ways that chronic exposure to UV light can. And, those who live in cities are more exposed to PAH. It’s a lot to consider — especially before coffee.

The takeaway: When we talk a.m. skin care, SPF is only half the battle; we’ve got to clean our skin and arm it with antioxidants (then UV protection) to ensure we’re really ready to face the day. To figure out how to best protect our skin from good, old UV and the solid and liquid particles suspended in the air (many of which are generated during the combustion of fossil fuels), we spoke to Dr. Debra Jaliman, a New York-based dermatologist and author of Skin Rules, about the best way to handle our morning skin-care regimens. Regardless of your complexion, Jaliman advocates for cleansing, applying a serum, and, finally, SPF. Read on for her tips on how to tinker with the morning trifecta, no matter your skin type.

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Dull Skin

To wake up dull skin, cleanse with an exfoliating powder, which will help slough off dead skin cells to not only reveal a rosier complexion but also create a smoother canvas for makeup. “If you’re being photographed that day, take an extra step and exfoliate — your makeup will go on better,” Jaliman advises.

Bioré Baking Soda Cleansing Scrub, $7.99, available at Walmart.

Dull skin needs a refresh every other day. Swap in this gentle exfoliator that not only softly buffs your face, but smells like you're holing up inside a luxe spa.

Chanel Gommage Microperlé Éclat, $45, available at Chanel.

Turns out, 'gentle exfoliator' isn't an oxymoron after all. Mix a little of this powder with water and massage it on for super silky skin.

Tatcha Polished Classic Rice Enzyme Powder, $65, available at Sephora.

For daily cleansing, reach for hydrating products like this one from May Lindstrom, which is packed full of nourishing (and antibacterial) honey.

May Lindstrom Skin, $80.00, available at Spirit Beauty LoungePhoto: Via May Lindstrom.

Further, products with lactic acid, vitamin C, licorice root, ginkgo, and other antioxidants and anti-inflammatories help deliver nutrients and brighten skin.

Amala, $24.00, available at Spirit Beauty LoungePhoto: Via Amala.

A tinted moisturizer provides SPF adequate for those who spend most of the day indoors. We like the True Botanicals Everyday Sheer Coverage for its light tint, non-nanoized zinc oxide, and skin-loving nutrients like broccoli seed oil, green and white tea, glycerin, pomegranate, and vitamin E.

Dry Skin

Many people think, If my skin doesn’t feel greasy, it must not be dirty. But, Jaliman says, even those with ultra-dry skin still need to cleanse in the morning. “There’s oil and bacteria that’s accumulated on the skin while you’ve been sleeping all night, so it’s important to cleanse in the morning."

Eminence Coconut Milk Cleanser, $36, available at Dermstore.

If a scrub feels too aggressive in the morning, opt for a gentle micellar water that will cleanse and refresh.

Garnier SkinActive Micellar Cleansing Water & Makeup Remover, $8.99, available Ulta Beauty.

This grapeseed-laced formula is a must for reactive skin types. Not only does it smell delicious, but it leaves your skin feeling refreshed — without drying it out.

Caudalie Micellar Cleansing Water, $28, available at Birchbox.

Dry skin types will relish in the calming formula packed inside this tube. Even if you feel like your skin is too dehydrated to wash every morning, this purifying, yet creamy, cleanser will convince you otherwise.

Aesop Purifying Facial Cream Cleanser, $39, available at Aesop.

Those with dry skin should look for a cleanser that’s creamy in consistency and stocked with hyaluronic acid, glycerin, ceramides, or other gentle moisturizers, Jaliman says. “The cleanser you choose is crucial in terms of not drying out your skin,” she says.

ESPA, $79.00, available at ESPAPhoto: Via Espa.

Essences give skin an extra layer of moisture before your serum and moisturizer. This formula is a bit thicker than the usual essence and makes skin look super dewy.

Lancome Énergie De Vie Intense Essence, $50, available at Lancome.

After cleansing, continue to moisturize with a serum stocked with hyaluronic acid, glycerin, and/or antioxidants.

Eve Lom, $95.00, available at NordstromPhoto: Via Eve Lom.

Sensitive skin will rejoice over this powerfully hydrating serum. Pat it on before your moisturizer and layer it up depending on how much moisture you seek.

Glossier Super Bounce, $28, available at Glossier.

Since many with dry skin need a no-nonsense moisturizer to lock in the hydration, try adding an SPF booster to be super hydrating, like the instant cult classic Charlotte Tilbury Magic Cream.

Charlotte Tilbury Magic Cream, $100, available at Charlotte Tilbury.

Photo: Via Charlotte Tilbury.

And don't forget about sun protection!

Dermalogica, $48.00, available at DermalogicaPhoto: Via Dermalogica.

If your skin starts to feel tight and dry mid-day, reach for a quick hydrating mist like this one from Tatcha.

Tatcha Dewy Skin Face Mist, $48, available at Tatcha.

Oily Skin

Everyone should wash the night’s bacteria and pillow gunk from their faces in the morning. But, for those with oily skin, morning cleansing is a particularly important step. Jaliman suggests cleansing with a powder or glycolic- or salicylic-acid-spiked cleanser (rather than a cream) and toning the skin as well.

Weleda, $19.50, available at WeledaPhoto: Via Weleda.

And, though those with oily skin tend to shy away from “hydrating” products, Jaliman says the best way for this group to get moisturization in the day is via a serum, since a moisturizer will just up the grease factor. “If you’re very oily, you may need a little moisturizer at night but not typically during the day,” she offers.

Revision Skincare, $29.99, available at AmazonPhoto: Via Revision Skincare.

“Hyaluronic acid is a good moisturizer that doesn't break anyone out," Jaliman says. We found Mizon's fast-absorbing serum is lightweight and also provides an intense punch of moisture.

Mizon Hyaluronic Acid 100, $42, available at Peach & Lily.

She also suggests exfoliating the skin, being careful to hit the eyebrow area — a spot on the face that’s often neglected.

Dr. Dennis Gross, $32.00, available at Beauty.comPhoto: Via Dr. Dennis Gross.

What’s more, powder sunscreen not only provides grease-less protection in the morning, but it's the perfect tool to cover four o’clock shine.

Brush on Block, $30.00, available at Brush on BlockPhoto: Via Brush on Block.

Sensitive Skin

The best way to fight fussy skin? With a big dose of simple. Look for products with short ingredient lists, like Cetaphil’s Gentle Skin Cleanser, and serums that calm and soothe.

Cetaphil, $4.39, available at Drugstore.comPhoto: Via Cetaphil.

Philosophy has long been a winner for sensitive skin beauties. This gentle, unfettered formula has been whisking away makeup and leaving behind no residue since 1996.

Philosophy Purity Made Simple, $36, available at Sephora.

Sunscreen is a major must for sensitive skin types, but many of them can irritate complexions further. That’s why Jaliman prefers physical sunscreens with zinc, especially for this group. “Zinc oxide is what’s used in diaper cream,” Jaliman says. “And, it’s unlikely that anyone will get a reaction to zinc oxide. If it’s good enough for a sensitive baby’s skin, it’s good enough for me.”

Coola, $36.00, available at CoolaPhoto: Via Coola.

A redness-reducing serum like this one can also work wonders to soothe irritated skin.

Darphin, $88.00, available at DarphinPhoto: Via Darphin.

Combination Skin

Those with combination skin should really think of themselves as having two skin types. Where a T-zone might require the oil-cutting power of salicylic or glycolic acid, the same active ingredients could dry out other parts of the face. For those with combination skin, Jaliman advises, “Look at your skin carefully to see how it behaves during the day. Then, pick how you use your products. Don’t feel like you have to slather everything all over your face.”

LiftLab, $65.00, available at Neiman MarcusPhoto: Via LiftLab.

If oily in the T-zone and dry on the periphery, try using a milder cleanser followed by a toner in that oily area, for example.

Yuli, $36.00, available at Spirit Beauty LoungePhoto: Via Yuli.

For combination skin, Jaliman also likes serums high in antioxidants, like those with pomegranate, since polyphenols won’t dry the skin out. “Apply antioxidants in the morning because high-antioxidant products will be able to help protect against pollutants,” she says. It’s likely the moisture from a serum will suffice, but if you do need a hydration boost, be careful to apply the product to only those dryer patches of skin.

Restorsea, $195.00, available at Bergdorf GoodmanPhoto: Via Restorsea.

Finally, pay attention to the parts of your face, if any, that need moisturizer during the day. This one is great because it layers well under makeup and has an SPF of 30 to give you a bit of sun protection.

CeraVe Facial Moisturizing Lotion AM, $14.60, available at Walmart.

Hyperpigmented Skin

One way to cleanse hyperpigmented skin is by exfoliating the dead skin and pigment away. By pairing a sonic cleansing brush with a vitamin C-loaded cleanser, exfoliation meets pigment-reducing power, as the vitamin has been shown to interfere with pigmentation pathways that occur in the skin.

Circ Cell Mandarin Cleansing Milk, $45, available at Circ Cell.

We reserve our heavy-duty toners for before bed to remove every speck of leftover makeup and dirt, but this one is intensely moisturizing and serves as the perfect base for your day moisturizer.

Fresh Peony Brightening Moisturizing Facial Toner, $60, available at Fresh.

For those of you who don't want to shell out for a cleansing brush, a physical exfoliant like this one will do the trick.

Skin & Co Roma, $29.00, available at Skin & Co RomaPhoto: Via Skin & Co Roma.

While hydroquinone can work well in fighting discoloration, its high absorption rate into the skin and carcinogenic properties give some people pause. Instead, try a serum with niacinamide (like SkinMedica’s Lyteria Skin Brightening Complex), which makes Jaliman’s best pigment-fighting ingredients list, along with kojic acid and licorice extract.

SkinMedica, $125.00, available at SkinMedicaPhoto: Via SkinMedica.

Finally a physical SPF laced with anti-pollutants, such as wheatgrass, and pigment fighters, like ellagic acid, helps combat discoloration with every step of an a.m. routine.

Sunday Riley, $125.00, available at Sunday RileyPhoto: Via Sunday Riley.

Acneic Skin

For those prone to blemishes, it’s especially important to cleanse the skin first thing in the morning. Jaliman suggests looking for washes with salicylic or glycolic acid, which have been shown to reduce acne.

Dr. Lin, $7.49, available at Ulta BeautyPhoto: Via Dr. Lin.

Skin irritated or inflamed? This 10-minute mask will instantly help to calm your complexion and leave you feeling refreshed and de-stressed.

Ren Evercalm Ultra Comforting Rescue Mask, $38, available at Sephora.

We also love sweeping these witch hazel- and salicylic acid-infused pads over our problem areas in lieu of toner.

First Aid Beauty, $30.00, available at SephoraPhoto: Via First Aid Beauty.

Next, Jaliman suggests using a serum to moisturize rather than a lotion or cream, since the former hydrates but still allows the skin to breathe. In fact, many people with acne don’t need to apply a daytime moisturizer at all — Jaliman sees many acne patients who complain about having to use blotting papers all day to deal with excessive oil and shine, only to find out they’ve been applying lotions and creams in the morning.

Wilma Schumann, $56.00, available at SkinStorePhoto: Via Wilma Schumann.

While a non-greasy SPF can seem like a tall order, we found the light formulas of EltaMD’s UV Clear Broad Spectrum SPF 46 and EltaMD’s Tinted Broad Spectrum SPF 40 to both protect from UVA and UVB without added shine.

Elta MD, $28.00, available at DermStorePhoto: Via Elta MD.

Aging Skin

Nothing is going to stop skin from growing older. But, by tricking it into producing more collagen, you can sure make it look younger for longer. Jaliman recommends starting your morning skin-care routine with a mild cleanser.

Liz Earle, $24.50, available at BirchboxPhoto: Via Liz Earle.

Most skin types don’t need to apply eye creams in the a.m. But, if you have fine lines under your eyes, Jaliman notes you may benefit from a daytime eye cream — but in gel form. “Try to find something that doesn’t run into your eyes and smudge your makeup — something that can be a particular problem in heat and humidity,” she warns.

Clark's Botanical's, $155.00, available at Clark's Botanical'sPhoto: Via Clark's Botanicals.

If your skin is thirsty, feed it a nourishing moisturizer before moving onto with SPF (a step that should always be last in line).

Absolution, $69.00, available at Veer and WanderPhoto: Via Absolution.

Finish off by incorporating anti-aging foundations into your makeup routine for added benefits.

La Prairie, $100.00, available at NordstromPhoto: Via La Prairie.

If you feel like your skin needs a pick-me-up throughout the day, feed it with a moisturizing mist.

Intelligent Nutrients, $40.00, available at Beauty.comPhoto: Via Intelligent Nutrients.

Reddened Skin

If your skin runs ruddy, keep cleansing simple. “I find people with flushed skin tend to get very red if they try to use any exfoliation,” Jaliman says. “This is the one skin type that I don’t like sonic cleansing for because I find it makes the skin more red — no matter how gentle the brush is.”

Instead, treat your skin like that of a newborn baby by washing with an alcohol-, soap-, and detergent-free cleansing water and cotton.

Ren, $25.00, available at SephoraPhoto: Via Ren Clean Skincare.

Jaliman also suggests sidestepping some of the more AHA- and BHA-loaded products since they don’t tend to work well on this group. “On these patients, the fewer products they use, the better off they are. Keep it simple.” Try looking for skin care made with green tea, which serves as an anti-inflamatory for redness. An antioxidant serum that uses gentle sea buckthorn oil can also help deliver essential fatty acids that may help protect and heal the skin.

Innisfree The Green Tea Seed Serum, $26, available at Innisfree.

Finally, Jaliman recommends paying careful attention to whether you can handle chemical sunscreens. For those with considerable rosacea, the chemical actives in some of them may irritate the skin further. But that doesn’t mean one should skip SPF altogether — especially in this group: “UV light really irritates rosacea, so it’s especially important that those with rosacea use sunscreen,” Jaliman says. We like this one because it's formulated specifically for those with easily irritated, rosacea-prone skin.

La Roche-Posay, $39.00, available at DermStorePhoto: Via La Roche-Posay.

Not a fan of chemical sunscreens? Drunk Elephant's Sheer Physical Defense will quite literally have you covered — no chemicals needed.

Drunk Elephant Umbra Sheer Physical Defense, $38, available at Dermstore.

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Obviously, R29 is a big fan of toilet talk. But new research suggests that we should be paying even more attention to our bowel health because, after decades of declining rates, colon and rectal cancers are on the rise again in younger people.

For the study, published online today in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute, researchers analyzed data from the government's long-running Surveillance Epidemiology and End Result (SEER) program. They zoomed into data collected between 1974 and 2013 in nine areas of the country. That gave them information for 490,305 patients who were at least 20 years old and diagnosed with colorectal cancer during their lives.

From there, the researchers were able to calculate the rates of colorectal cancer diagnoses based on when patients were born.

Results confirmed that, overall, rates of colorectal cancers have been declining in the U.S. for the past few decades. They were at their lowest for those born around 1950. But the rate of those cancers is also increasing among millennials: Those born circa 1990 have nearly double the risk for colon cancer and quadruple the risk for rectal cancer compared to those born circa 1950.

It's not totally clear why the rates are rising in this population, says George Chang, MD, professor of surgical oncology and chief of the Colon and Rectal Surgery Section at MD Anderson Cancer Center, who was not affiliated with the study. But he says the rate at which they're rising is "relatively alarming."

Of course, this doesn't mean we're all destined to have colorectal cancer (about one in 23 women are expected to have the disease in their lifetimes). Rates among younger people are still low. But it does suggest that we should expand our idea of who can develop the condition and be more proactive about preventing it.

One major issue here is that, although screening is recommended for adults beginning at age 50, it's really not routine for anyone younger than that. But whether or not we should lower the age at which screenings start is still up for debate.

"The primary mode of screening is colonoscopy," Dr. Chang explains. "While it has benefits, it also has some risks." The major upside to colonoscopy is that it can detect colon polyps. These little bunches of cells are not cancerous, but can become cancerous. "If you detect a polyp, you can remove that polyp and prevent a cancer from ever forming," Dr. Chang says.

On the other hand, colonoscopy requires a lot of prep work that patients generally aren't too excited about. (Seriously, how pumped would you be to go through all this?) Colonoscopies also require you to be sedated, which comes with its own list of potential risks. And there's the small but present risk for bowel perforation during a colonoscopy.

With all of that in mind, Dr. Chang says it's a little early to think about lowering the age to start screening. But if you have a relative who was diagnosed with colorectal cancer at an early age, your doctor will recommend you start your screenings earlier on.

There are also other ways for younger people to stay on top of their bowel health: We do know that obesity significantly increases your risk for colorectal cancer, which makes it even more important to stay physically active and eat a balanced diet (with plenty of fiber!).

Beyond that, Dr. Chang says, "Pay attention to your symptoms." It's easy for us to explain away symptoms like constipation, diarrhea, or blood in the stool as self-diagnosed IBS or hemorrhoids. But if those symptoms don't go away, it's definitely time to check in with your doctor. You can rest assured that you won't be the only one bringing the bathroom convo into her office.

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The Perfect Winter Clothes For Where YOU Live

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Illustrated by Emily Zirimis.

This story was originally published on December 21, 2014.

Our noses are redder than a Louboutin sole, and we haven't felt our toes since October. Yep, it’s cold here in NYC. But, in Wisconsin, for example (where this editor's mother lives), it's even worse. (Meanwhile, his brother in L.A. thinks his 65-degree day is nippy.)

Winter weather may be complicated, but our solutions to tackling the cold aren't: Wear. Warmer. Clothes. You already own a jacket, but is it actually the right one for your region? What about footwear? If you feel an ounce of chill, you’re doing something wrong. This guide will help determine just how to dress for the cold where you live — whether that’s the south, southwest, northwest, midwest, or northeast. To take it one step further, we turned to Intellicast and highlighted the record high and low temps for December in major cities in each region (some may surprise you), just to give you a sense of why these items will work. We're one step ahead of you, Mother Nature.

Midwest

Record High, Chicago: 69 degrees, 1982

Record Low, Chicago: -20 degrees, 1983

It's freezing in the midwest. If you live there, you're well aware of this fact. Just last month, highs in the Twin Cities were below 32 degrees Fahrenheit from November 10 through November 20. It just spirals downward from there. As a result, layers, layers, and more layers are crucial to surviving until, well, May.

You need a parka. Don't argue with us.

Uniqlo Oversized Long Parka, $49.90, available at Uniqlo.

A fingerless pair is ideal for driving.

Hat Attack Cashmere Arm Warmers, $74, available at Zappos.

A functional boot that also looks cool is perfect for stomping through the snow, straight into your cube.

Aldo Birdy, $50, available at Aldo.

The Northeast

Record High, NYC: 70 degrees, 1982

Record Low, NYC: 0 degrees, 1989

This is what we call "the unexpected" region. One day, Buffalo gets roughly 76 inches of snow. The next, it's 50 degrees and sunny in NYC. So, proper preparation is key. Invest in products that do double duty: sneakers you can wear on a "normal" day but also happen to be waterproof, and light jackets that are loose enough to pile over three sweaters if needed.

This sweater is as fuzzy as your favorite blanket.

Christopher Kane Intarsia Wool-blend Sweater, $795, available at Net-A-Porter.

SIJJL Floppy Cable-Knit Beanie, $29.99, available at Kohl's.

This pom-pom beanie works outdoors and indoors, for all those snowy casual Fridays.

Mudd Chunky Knit Pom-Pom Hat, $28 $9.99, available at Kohl's.

Are they sneakers? Are they snow boots? They're both, and they're awesome.

Nike Roche Sneakerboot, $74.97, available at Nike.

The Northwest

Record High, Seattle: 65 degrees, 1980

Record Low, Seattle: 12 degrees, 1983

Sure, you could get snow-slammed in the Northwest (remember Oregon's record 21 feet in 1983?), but in many areas from Eureka to Seattle, rain and more rain is coming your way through January, making water-repellent gear the most important part of your wardrobe.

You vs. rainstorm.

Sutterheim x Garance Doré Rain Coat, $340, available at Sutterheim.

Invest in a quality pair of multi-functional rain boots that will last you for years.

Hunter Women’s Original Refined High Heel Chelsea Boot, $ 195 $136.95, available at Hunter.

Keep your layering essentials stored in a waterproof bag.

Herschel Supply Co. Translucent Black Backpack, $ 98 $73.50, available at Alex and Alexa.

The South

Record High, Charleston: 81 degrees, 1998

Record Low, Charleston: 14 degrees, 1962

It certainly depends where you live, but the South tends to be warmer than many regions. Snowfall can happen (in that case, everything will probably be closed and you won't have to leave your house anyway), but much of the winter will be mild. A chunky sweater is your winter staple.

A wide-brim hat has many purposes: It adds extra warmth and combats the sun, all while tying together a look.

Janessa Leone Savoy Wide-brim Wool Fedora, $225, available at Barneys New York.

The ideal foundation dress. You can layer it with tights and a sweater, or not.

Wilfred Free Fischer Dress, $70, available at Aritzia.

Wear these with or without socks — for a weekend of exploring.

Vince Warren Flannel Sneaker, $225, available at Vince.

The Southwest

Record High, L.A.: 92 degrees, 1938

Record Low, L.A.: 24 degrees, 1944

While above-average precipitation is predicted across the Southwest this year, drought is also predicted to intensify in parts of California and Nevada. So, rain jackets may be key, but could prove unnecessary. Overall, it tends to veer warm in this area of the country, so lighter layers suffice.

Sometimes, a tee is all you really need.

Alternative Apparel Rocker Garment Dyed Distressed T-shirt, $28, available at Alternative Apparel.

Flowy culottes give just the right amount of coverage.

Zara Knit Palazzo Trousers, $49.90, available at Zara.

Throw this on for cooler evenings.

Être Cécile Good Life Boyfriend Sweatshirt, $124.44, available at Être Cécile.

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The Best Part Of Snapchat? These Celebrities

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Raise your hand if you love Snapchat.

If you're raising your hand, then you are actually not that special (sorry). There are at least 100 million daily Snapchatters — and that number is growing. As of February 2015, more than 60% of 13-to-34-year-olds had the app downloaded on their phone, according to a U.S. Census study on Snapchat's site. Whoa.

Why do we like it so much?

It's quick to use and has fun filters. It is a lot more real than Instagram, a lot less argumentative than Twitter, and a lot more hip than Facebook. Now that Snapchat has even infiltrated the White House, it's safe to say the app is in it for the long haul.

In addition to the political powers in D.C., dozens of celebrities are jumping on the Snapchat bandwagon, eager to share glimpses of their behind-the-scenes life with their fans.

Everyone from models to actresses (to model/actresses, to model/DJs, you get the idea) are daily users (DJ Khaled and Kylie Jenner just might be addicted) and now, some are even using the platform to premiere and share original content.

So open up the app and start adding these celebs. They'll make it worth your while.

Dwayne (The Rock) Johnson

Username: TheRock

Snapchat Signature emoji: arm flexing (duh)

Typical snap: overzealous workout selfies

Cara Delevingne

Username: caradevilqueen

Signature Snapchat Emoji: none

Typical Snap: Relentlessly goofy selfies

Corinne Olympios

Username: colympios

Signature Snapchat Emoji: none

Typical Snap: Herself. Duh.

Nick Viall

Username: nickviall

Signature Snapchat Emoji: none

Typical Snap: Selfies, because duh.

Refinery29

Username: refinery29

Signature Snapchat Emoji: none

Typical Snap: Refinery29 gives you not only all the best celebrity, fashion, and beauty content, but it also has all insider scoop. We gotchu, boos.

Miranda Kerr

Username: mirandakerr

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Typical Snap: Glam squad selfies, and videos of her cooking healthy recipes in the kitchen.

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Ellen DeGeneres

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Typical Snap: The television personality often lends her Snapchat account to her famous guests who share funny messages. Her crew also has fun sharing behind-the-scenes moments from the set of her show.

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James Van Der Beek

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Typical Snap: The former Dawson's Creek star will star as Diplo in an upcoming series on Viceland. In the meantime, he's hanging out with his wife and their four adorable kids.

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Jen Atkin

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Typical Snap: The hair stylist is quickly becoming a recognizable name on her own. She mostly snaps hair product line, OAUI, and an array of pics and videos with her famous clients including all of the Kardashian-Jenners, Chrissy Teigen, Jenna Dewan-Tatum, and Jessica Alba (to name a few).

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Tori Kelly

Username: koritelly

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Typical Snap: Behind-the-scenes snaps from her life as a country singer.

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Keke Palmer

Username: laurenpalmer

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Typical Snap: The actress is always sharing sage advice with her Snapchat followers. (And it's usually hilarious.)

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Jonathan Cheban

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Typical Snap: Food, food, and more food. The fancier the better.

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John Stamos

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Typical Snap: Outtakes from the set of Scream Queens, along with some impressive filter selfies.

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Heidi Pratt

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Typical Snap: The other half of Speidi is an avid Snapper sharing her day-to-day activities with her followers, along with her adorable crew of fluffy pups.

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Kendall Jenner

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Typical Snap: Jenner's model jet-set life is in full force on her Snapchat. She also shares artsy pictures of milestone moments, like a selfie after she voted for the first time.

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Bob Saget

Username: bobsterclaw

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Typical Snap: Bob Saget is surprisingly hilarious on Snapchat. Just give it a go. You won't be disappointed.

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Sophia Bush

Username: sophiabushsnaps

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Typical Snap: On-set selfies from her show, Chicago PD, and videos of her dog.

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Millie Bobby Brown

Username: milliebbrown

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Typical Snap: The charming 12-year-old Stranger Things star is delightful to follow on Snapchat. She's constantly hanging out with other stars, and is eager to share tidbits of her exciting life with her fans.

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Khloé Kardashian

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Typical Snap: KhloMoney, as she nicknamed herself, is constantly working out with her trainer and her older sister, Kourtney. When she's being filmed throwing punches in chic gym attire, she's sharing selfies of her glam squad in typical Kardashian fashion.

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Kelly Oxford

Username: kellyoxford

Signature Snapchat Emoji: detective

Typical Snap: The Canadian author and comedian is a low-key internet sleuth (she's led Snapchat investigations on a mysterious A-list pedophile, as well as the JonBenét Ramsey and Amanda Knox cases) and a social media influencer (she recently ignited a moving conversation about sexual assault on Twitter leading with #notokay).

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Usher Raymond

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Typical Snap: Usher is all about the details. He also loves a good selfie video, to really give an inside look into his life. I mean, who can forget about his aggressive steam room selfie?

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Reese Witherspoon

Username: snapsbyreese

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Typical Snap: All of Witherspoon's snaps are totally adorable. Just what you'd expect.

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John Mayer

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Typical Snap: John Mayer is all over the place these days. He's hanging out with the Stranger Things cast, sharing his intense facial care routine, and performing at the Emmys.

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Troian Bellisario

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Typical Snap: The Pretty Little Liars star snaps her behind-the-scenes life which includes PLL swag (pictured), her directorial debut, and other fun videos.

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Sofia Richie

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Typical Snap: The daughter of singer Lionel Richie and stepsister of Nicole Richie has a pretty charmed life in Beverly Hills. She often shares snippets of her luxury lifestyle, which most recently includes tropical vacations with Justin Bieber.

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Ryan Lochte

Username: ryanlochte

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Typical Snap: The 12-time Olympic medalist has started using the app to show behind-the-scenes moments of his life. We're especially looking forward to his Dancing With The Stars snaps.

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Keith Urban

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Typical Snap: The country superstar likes to focus on his fans in his snapchats, often flipping the camera to face his screaming crowds during shows. But, of course, he throws a few selfies into the mix. Who can resist?

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Kaitlyn Bristowe

Username: snapbackbean

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Typical Snap: The season 11 Bachelorette is hilarious on Snapchat. She and her fiancé, Shawn Booth (the winner of her season, props to them for being in love IRL) are also #couplegoals, too.

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Fetty Wap

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Typical Snap: The "Trap Queen" rapper loves using those filters.

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Alexa Chung

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Typical Snap: The model and designer shares snaps of her favorite products and chill moments with famous friends.

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Lea Michele

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Typical Snap: Snaps from recording sessions, backstage access on her various projects, and funny selfies.

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Gucci Mane

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Typical Snap: Analysis of his OOTD, sneak peeks of his music in the studio, and videos proving that he isn't a clone.

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Chris Pratt

Username: chrisprattsnap

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Typical Snap: Inspirational mantras, movie announcements, and random moments, like this one with a donkey.

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Michelle Obama

Username: michelleobama

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Typical Snap: Worldly travels with influential people, and snaps of her blossoming garden in D.C.

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Kourtney Kardashian

Username: kourtneykardash

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Typical Snap: Workout sessions, luxurious trips, and downtime with the kids.

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Chelsea Handler

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Typical Snap: Every once in awhile, Handler will rap and narrate all of her snaps of the day. It's pretty amazing.

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Brody Jenner

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Typical Snap: His adorable dog, new fiancée, and sneak peeks at his aspiring DJ skills.

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Spencer Pratt

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Typical Snap: A reoccurring rotation of him making espresso, practicing jujitsu, eating burritos or sushi, and critiquing celebrities in gossip mags.

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Blac Chyna

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Typical Snap: Selfies with a reluctant Rob Kardashian, videos of King Cairo, her son with Tyga, and snaps of her purple Lambo.

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Chanel Iman

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Typical Snap: Behind-the-scenes videos of photo shoots, sassy selfies, and other typical moments in the life of a young, jet-setting model.

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Diplo

Username: diplo

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Typical Snap: Vacations, shirtless selfies, and wild crowds at his shows.

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Kim Kardashian West

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Typical Snap: Her glam squads, Nori playing with filters, and some candids of Kanye West.

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Justin Bieber

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Typical Snap: Shirtless selfies; sometimes, he sings

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Chrissy Teigen

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Typical Snap: Lots and lots of delicious food

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The White House

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Typical Snap: Behind-the-scenes moments with the Administration

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Paris Hilton

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Typical Snap: Her dog and her jet-setting lifestyle

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Ariana Grande

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Typical Snap: Videos of her singing

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DJ Khaled

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Typical Snap: Motivational mantras

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Lady Gaga

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Typical Snap: Special messages to her fans

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Calvin Harris

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Typical Snap: His dinner and studio time

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Bella Hadid

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Typical Snap: Photo shoots and food

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Kylie Jenner

Username: kylizzlemynizzle

Snapchat Signature Emoji: Crown

Typical Snap:Mini-movies and car ride selfies

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Eva Longoria

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Typical Snap: Makeup chair videos

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Nicole Richie

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Typical Snap: Good Charlotte concerts and her clothing line

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Nick Jonas

Username: jicknonas

Typical Snap: Backstage and pre-show videos

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Meghan Trainor

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Typical Snap: Glam squad selfies

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Rick Ross

Username: ferrarifatboy

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Typical Snap: Stacks of money and expensive jewelry

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Kate Hudson

Username: khudsnaps

Snapchat Signature Emoji: Sun

Typical Snap: Breakfast, Pilates, glam squads, and family (basically everything)

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Gigi Hadid

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Typical Snap: Overseas jetlag selfies

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Selena Gomez

Username: selenagomez

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Typical Snap: Announcements for her album

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Shay Mitchell

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Typical Snap: Gym sessions and hanging out with her friends

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Jared Leto

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Typical Snap: California day trips

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Hailee Steinfeld

Username: haiz

Snapchat Signature Emoji: Mischievous devil

Typical Snap: Hangouts with famous and non-famous friends

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Ashley Benson

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Typical Snap: #NoMakeup selfies

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Joe Jonas

Username: joseadam

Snapchat Signature Emoji: Purple digimon

Typical Snap: Funny pictures on tour with his band, DNCE

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Ryan Seacrest

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Typical Snap: Red carpet videos

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Ansel Elgort

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Amit tugged on the hem of her skirt and squinted through the windshield as if some easier answer might be scrawled on the sidewalk. It was early spring; the air hung thick with pollen and what we both knew she was about to say.

"I can’t do this with you," she said, and turned to face me. Her voice was tender, but each word spidered cracks all through me. "Every time," she said, "I’ve really believed along with you that this was good, that it was worth trying again." She glanced down at her hands. "I don’t believe that anymore."

I nodded, staring into my lap. I couldn’t look at her.

"I’m scared for you, Peaches," she said, using the pet name she’d given me in graduate school. "I love you, but I can’t watch you do this anymore." Tears plinked onto the thighs of my jeans.

I could tell she wanted to say more, but I couldn’t bear to hear it so I nodded decisively, signaling the end of our conversation. She got out of the car and I watched her walk into her building before I leaned my forehead on the steering wheel and sobbed.

No one writes pop songs about friendship breakups. The pain of a friend’s disapproval is too complex, too unromantic, too real to be anthemic. Though most people who cultivate intimate friendships have known this kind of heartache.

Amit and I were not lovers, but our friendship was intimate in ways none of my romantic relationships had ever been. Over the course of a decade, I’d confided in her as I have few people in my lifetime. I trusted her to see my truth before I could see it for myself. Which made it hurt all the more when she told me that I was making a mistake so big she couldn’t bear to watch it unfold.

My lover was the issue. The year before, we had met at an academic conference and kissed after barely speaking. I went straight home to New York and broke up with my girlfriend. That night, I knocked on Amit’s door in tears, a bag of clothes in one hand, my pit bull’s leash in the other. The three of us slept in her bed for three days. I woke each morning seething with shame and grief, unable to eat. I had ended the best relationship I’d ever had and I was hung up on a total stranger who lived 2,500 miles away. For three days, Amit hugged me and reminded me that I was human. Though I didn't feel it, I trusted Amit. Her words helped me breathe.

An infinite number of romantic comedies tell us this is de rigueur for grown-up female friendships: We fall apart, and our friends reassemble the pieces. But I had never let anyone see my broken pieces — let alone reassemble them. Even in childhood friendships, I had been the confidant rather than the confider; the source of advice and emotional insight, not the recipient. Self-sufficiency was my religion. I’d been raised by a therapist and had practically learned to read on psychology textbooks. I didn’t trust anyone’s counsel but my own.

I was the same in my romantic relationships. I was the lover who loved less, who never lost control, who’d never been broken up with. I was independent, and I did trust my own counsel. But I also suspected a larger truth: I was terrified to rely on anyone for fear of losing them. To be “needy” was my worst fear. I lived to avoid it.

Amit and I met in our first class of grad school. I was a year sober and had recently quit my job as a professional dominatrix to finally pursue my dream of being a writer. She had moved to New York City from Tel Aviv and was learning to write fiction in a new language. We were both a little tender, in the process of drastically changing our lives. The Melissa who first met Amit had recently been humbled by her powerlessness over heroin, and the help she’d needed to overcome it. But I don’t think that’s what made me trust her. Amit understood self-sufficiency and the ways I hid my own humanness.

During the first nine years of our friendship, I moved in and out of love a few times, published my first book, got into the healthiest relationship of my life and then became caretaker to that partner when she was stricken with a chronic illness. Through all of it, Amit was the person in whom I most confided, the person I trusted to call me out when I was buying my own story a little too easily. I'd never showed up on her doorstep in tears, though. Until suddenly, there I was.

As I moved through that breakup, into my new love, something unleashed in me. Whatever resolve or fortitude or repressive power had insulated me from my own neediness evaporated. Finally, I fell apart.

I was the same in my romantic relationships. I was the lover who loved less, who never lost control, who’d never been broken up with.

New love can sell you on almost any type of reasoning, but reasoning, good or bad, didn’t field my desperate calls when my new lover didn’t answer, or balm the reality that that new lover had a wife. And reasoning didn’t reassure me every that I wasn’t losing my mind. Amit did.

Every day of that entire year, I cried. I stared at my phone throughout dinners with Amit, who listened and listened, who dissected our conflicts for hours on the phone with me. I had been hijacked by a crazed needy imposter of myself. One night, I walked the six blocks between our apartments just for a hug. "Why is this happening to me?" I asked her. She cupped my face in both hands.

"Oh, Peaches," she said, and pulled me in for another hug and spoke over my shoulder. "I think the universe has decided you’re ready to be vulnerable,” she told me. "I know it hurts, but I trust that this is part of your path." But I couldn't trust myself. And I couldn't trust my fickle long distance lover. But I trusted Amit.

When my lover broke up with me for the first time, I called Amit. "I can’t get out of bed," I said. "Yes, you can," she said. When my lover came back to me, Amit assured me that I had been opened up in a way that would make my heart even bigger, more ready for whatever came next. She said this again the second time we broke up, and the third. When I found love letters that my lover had written to another woman, it was Amit I called.

"Just take a breath," Amit said. "Try talking to her." She rightly knew that I wasn’t ready to walk away. Maybe, she knew that I couldn’t. After eighteen months, and yet another ravaging blowout fight, during whose aftermath Amit spent hours listening to me, my lover and I were broken up again.

"I’m really done," I said. This time Amit answered, "I’m scared for your health. You haven’t slept a full night in over a year. It’s dangerous."

"I know," I said. My own stamina baffled me. I had been falling apart for so long I couldn’t remember how a whole body felt. My short-term memory was shot. I had no idea what was going on in Amit’s life, or that of anyone else I loved. To be in crisis is a profoundly self-centered state, one I’d been in for eighteen months. It affected everything. "This is how people in their thirties have strokes." she added. I knew it was true. Whatever hard lesson the universe had in store for me, the leap of intimacy shouldn’t include risking my life.

But a few days later, my lover showed up on my doorstep and I let her in. This time, when I called Amit to talk, she didn’t answer. She texted me to suggest that we meet in person. While the agonized fights and sleepless nights of the love affair all smear together in my memory now, that conversation with Amit in my car is clear.

"Peaches," she said. "I’m scared for you. This is an addiction." She started to cry. "I will be here when it’s over. But I can’t watch you do this to yourself anymore."

I could not end the madness of my relationship and I could not make my friend believe in it. At 10 years clean, I lived in more pain, isolation, and powerlessness than I had with any drug. But I knew — even in that very dark place — love’s success is not contingent on its lasting. I knew that in the most painful and grown-up conflicts, no one is wrong. There is nothing to fight against, and no armor of self-righteousness to protect you. There was nothing for me to do but watch my friend walk away. Whatever our chances of survival, I wasn’t done yet.

An infinite number of romantic comedies tell us this is de rigueur for grown-up female friendships: We fall apart, and our friends reassemble the pieces.

A few months later, my girlfriend moved across the country into my one-bedroom apartment. For two years we had lamented, fought, and blamed the distance for our relentless angst. Finally, we would be together. I think we both understood that it would either be our solution or our final undoing.

It didn’t take long. Hysterical fighting across 2,500 miles is a particular kind of torment: Doing it within a 700-square foot apartment is yet another. Like desire, our fights always had an object —money, jealousy, who had suffered or sacrificed more. But these were straw men ablaze with our deeper, less sayable grievances, namely the ways we had expected to be healed or completed by each other, and how absurdly we had failed.

Ending that relationship was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, but I finally did it. Two months after she moved in, my girlfriend moved out. When I came home from work that first day to my empty home, I sat on the couch for hours, watching the shadows slide across the floor, filled with loneliness and relief.

Amit and I only lived a few blocks apart. In the beginning of our estrangement, I scanned the sidewalk for her every day. It seemed a small miracle that I never saw her.

Then one evening I stood at the back of a crowded reading and spotted my friend, wobbling on tiptoes to see over people’s heads. She had a new haircut and an old, familiar jacket. My heart ached. I considered leaving, but didn’t. Amit didn’t see me until the reading was over. Across the room, our eyes met and we each gave a small wave. The crowd of our mutual friends jostled us closer, until we faced each other. "Hey Peaches," she said.

We both laughed, at first nervously, then for real. We knew each other too well to look away from our situation. As people elbowed by, we began the process of filling each other in on the things we had missed. I knew it would take time for us to rebuild our friendship, and it did. But the fear that I had lost my friend forever, or that that was even possible, disappeared in those first minutes.

Where Amit and I thought it was time for me to be vulnerable, to risk more of myself in love, we were right and we were wrong. So often we mistake the route for the destination, which is always longer and harder than that of our design.

Often the leads of our lives are disguised as supporting characters. This is how the universe tricks us into learning the unexpected.

My worst fear became real. I risked myself in love and became needy beyond any reckoning. I lost the people I least wanted to lose. But through it, I learned that living through your worst fear is sometimes the best thing that can happen to you. How else can you know the strength of your own heart?

In truly intimate relationships, change is inevitable and disappointment guaranteed. As we grow, our loves must also grow or end. And when we let ourselves be seen, we give our imperfections along with our strengths. The people we love might back away.

Amit and I have not loved each other perfectly. But I know that our love is built upon honesty and resilience, a mutual desire to help the other grow into her best and bravest self. These intentions never promise a love without error or pain, but they do leave room for us to transform, to forgive, and to find each other — changed, but not gone. The people to whom we return after a storm passes are the true loves of our lives: our friends, our families, our own selves; softer, braver, stronger than we were, even in the calm.

Melissa Febos is a writer and essayist who penned the critically acclaimed memoir,Whip Smart , in 2010. Her latest collection,Abandon Me , debuts from Bloomsbury on February 28, 2017.

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From grocery lists to rent payments, we know you have a lot to keep track of. How’s a person supposed to remember TV premiere dates, too? With this cheat sheet, we're here to ensure you never miss the start of your next favorite show.

We’ll be keeping this list updated throughout the year, so be sure to return when you just can’t remember when GoT is returning to HBO. And, since the HBO gods still haven't nailed down a date, you'll have to check back.

So, without further ado, here’s the start date for everything worth watching this spring.

Girls

Season 6 premiered on Sunday, February 12 on HBO

Love 'em or hate 'em, HBO's most notorious pals are back for one last season. If the latest episode, "American Bitch," is any evidence, Girls is still churning out important cultural touchstones. Tune in so you can join the very last discussions spurred by Lena Duhnam's brainchild.

Big Little Lies

Premiered on Sunday, February 19 on HBO

When Big Little Lies kicks off, the audience is told that someone has been murdered. We just don't know who.

The show flashes back to piece together the conflicts and craziness between three moms in Monterey, CA, whose lives apparently unravel to the point of murder. With power actresses like Reese Witherspoon, Nicole Kidman, and Laura Dern, this show combines compelling family struggles, enviable interior decor, and a splash of melodrama to create a total blast of a show.

Feud: Bette and Joan

Premieres on Sunday, March 5 on FX

From the wacky imagination of Ryan Murphy comes his latest interpretation of America's past. In this case, it's a recreation of the hard-to-believe events that transpired between Bette Davis and Joan Crawford, two feuding Hollywood stars of the 1950s. Two A-list stars of the modern day will team up to play the duo: Murphy acolyte Jessica Lange will play Joan Crawford, and Susan Sarandon will play Bette Davis.

The show begins just as Crawford and Davis's heyday has come to an end. Like many aging Hollywood actresses today, the women are offered limited (and unappealing) parts. Somehow, they're convinced to co-star in a low budget gothic horror called What Ever Happened to Baby Jane?, a movie about two washed-up actresses. Is this meta enough for you? Bursting with melodrama and amazing performances, latest Murphy creation tackles Hollywood's tendency to "witchify" and "divafy" women.

The Americans

Season 5 premieres on Tuesday, March 7 on FX

The critically acclaimed period drama about two KGB spies embedded into suburbia is back for its penultimate season. The high-charge trailer seems to suggest that Paige will follow in her parents' footsteps and become a spy. I guess we'll have to tune in to see.

Trial & Error

Premieres on Tuesday, March 7 on NBC

Can't get enough of crime documentaries? Then you might want to check out NBC's newest comedy, a spoof of all those docs that have been popping up. John Lithgow plays a poetry professor accused of murdering his wife.

Designated Survivor

Returns on Wednesday, March 8 on ABC

Tired of watching drama play out on CNN? An equally concerning, but more comfortably scripted, American political drama plays out on Designated Survivor. After essentially all of the U.S. government is wiped out during a terrorist attack on the State of the Union address, Tom Kirkland (Kiefer Sutherland), the U.S. Secretary of Housing, is immediately sworn in as president.

Love

Returns on Friday, March 10 on Netflix

TV's favorite cringeworthy couple gives love another shot in this Netflix original series. Last time we saw Gus and Mickey, they'd just run into each other at the convenience store where they first met.

Empire

Returns on Wednesday, March 22 on Fox

In this TV show about a New York-based hip-hop and entertainment company, Taraji P. Henson's character, Cookie, has just uncovered Lucious's plan to unseat her from the family business.

Imaginary Mary

Premieres on Wednesday, March 29 on NBC

What happens when your meddlesome childhood imaginary friend decides to wreak havoc on your adult life?

Mary's life is thrown into a state of upheaval when her new relationship with a father of three forces her to reconsider her career goals. In that period of high stress, her mentally unbalanced imaginary friend tries to help her with the transition. SNL alum Rachel Dratch voices CGI-animated Mary.

13 Reasons Why

Premieres on Friday, March 31 on Netflix

Based on the popular YA novel of the same name, 13 Reasons Why opens with Clay Jensen coming home to a mysterious box placed on his bed. Think along the lines of high school buried treasure. Inside the box are 13 cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker, his classmate and crush who killed herself two weeks earlier. Hannah explains that there were 13 reasons why she chose to end her life; each tape is intended to illuminate each one.

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If you've ever looked at the obviously processed chicken patties at your local Subway and thought, "There's no way that's 100 percent real chicken," you're right.

In fact, according to research into the DNA of major fast food brands' chicken sandwiches, Subway's chicken is only about 50% actual chicken meat.

Researchers were so shocked by Subway's DNA results that they tested the sandwiches twice. While all other brands' — McDonald's, A&W, Tim Hortons, and Wendy's — hovered between 86 and 90% chicken DNA, Subway's two sandwiches had only 53.6% and 42.8%.

The rest is made up of soy and seasonings.

But don't worry — that doesn't make your Sweet Onion Chicken Teriyaki gross or inedible. Soy is not detrimental to your health — as long as you don't eat it for every meal, of course. Some research links the isoflavones in soy to adverse effects, like imbalanced hormones and problems with the endocrine system. So taking it easy on soy products isn't a bad idea, but the occasional Subway chicken sandwich isn't going to make you OD on soy overnight.

Besides, Subway swears that their chicken isn't as soy-heavy as the research would let you believe, and we have to remember that this is just one study.

"We are concerned by the alleged findings you cite with respect to the proportion of soy content," Subway representatives said in a statement. "Our chicken strips and oven roasted chicken contain 1% or less of soy protein. We use this ingredient in these products as a means to help stabilize the texture and moisture."

They continue to say that all of their chicken comes from 100% white meat chicken which is then marinated, roasted, and grilled. Though the company contests the findings, they have vowed to look into it with their supplier and "ensure that the chicken is meeting the high standard we set for all of our menu items and ingredients."

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The Greatest Song Lyrics Of The Year (So Far)

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It's already become pretty clear that 2017 is going to be a stellar year for music. We're anticipating new albums from tons of our favorite artists, which you can keep track of here. We've got a running hot new songs each week to add to your playlist rotation. And now, we're keeping you clued in on the best lyrics we've heard this year (so far).

But what makes a lyric great? Well, that's up to the songwriter and the listener — music is personal, and what sticks with one person might soon be forgettable to another, but we think you'll agree that these have a way of perking one's ears up. Great lyrics can make you laugh, make you think, make you feel. From the witty to the heartbreaking, from sweet pop choruses to politically-charged rap verses, we appreciate them all.

So enjoy our very favorite lyrics of 2017 so far. We'll be updating this post every couples of weeks to keep things fresh.

"Pure Comedy," Father John Misty

The comedy of man starts like this

Our brains are way too big for our mothers' hips

And so Nature, she divines this alternative

We emerged half-formed and hope that whoever greets us on the other end

Is kind enough to fill us in

And, babies, that's pretty much how it's been ever since

FJM’s latest cynical single pokes fun at the theater of mankind, which he distills down to comedy. As always, it’s unclear how much of this is the opinion of Father John Misty the character, or Josh Tillman's, the real identity of the singer.

"That's What's Up,” Alicia Keys

Ladies and Gentleman, allow me my testimony
I'm so blessed, I'm so blessed
Stow your blessings upon me
And it feels so good, it feels so good
So good to be free
Oh, keep your presence
Keep your presence on me

Keys released this song about faith and gratitude, which samples Kanye West’s "Low Lights," on her 35th birthday.

“Moving on and Getting Over,” John Mayer

Tell me I can have the fact you’ve loved me to hold onto
Tell me I can keep the door cracked open, to let light through

The singer-songwriter gets vulnerable on this melancholy track from his new EP, The Search for Everything: Wave One.

Photo: Daniel Zuchnik/WireImage.

"Shape Of You," Ed Sheeran

I'm in love with the shape of you
We push and pull like a magnet do
Although my heart is falling too

This is Sheerhan's tender, poetic way of saying "I like your hot bod."

"High For Hours," J. Cole

Here's a thought for my revolutionary heart
Take a deeper look at history, it's there to pick apart
See, the people at the top, they get to do just what they want
'Til after a while the people at the bottom finally get smart
Then they start to holla "Revolution!"

Cole released his soulful, incisive new song about racial oppression and revolution in America on Martin Luther King Jr. Day.

Photo: Tom Nicholson/REX/Shutterstock.

"(No One Knows Me) Like The Piano," Sampha

No one knows me like the piano in my mother's home
You would show me I have something, some people call a soul
And you drop-topped the sky, oh you arrived when I was three years old
No one knows me like the piano in my mother's home

The Brit's beautiful meditation on his mother's death and the healing power of music will make you tear up.

"Say Something Loving," The xx

Say something loving
I just don't remember the thrill of affection
I just don't remember
Say something loving
I need a reminder, the feeling's escaped m e

The xx returns to peak lyrical form on I See You, like in this bittersweet track about feeling nostalgic for closeness.

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"Black Magic," Yung Mavu

My wizards lit, y'all don't even know
When I'm with your girl I steal the show
Glass on my face, you're a disgrace
A Dementor try to suck up my face

The first viral hit of 2017 is creative and ingenious, thanks largely to its perfect Harry Potter references.

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Celebs You Should Be Following On Instagram

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Instagram's latest statistic says there are more than 400 million people using the social media platform. That's a lot. And, that stat is from September of 2015. Since then, Instagram has given us a #blessed new update that allows users to sync multiple accounts on the app.

Among those nearly half a billion accounts are thousands of celebrity-run pages. Most of them are eager to share silly, glamorous, and behind-the-scenes moments with their followers and fans.

I'm sure you already follow your favorite singers, actresses, and artists, but did you know that some of the more elusive and private celebrities still indulge on the picture platform?

Consider this your crash course in The Most Interesting People On Instagram. They won't disappoint.

Who: Tom Hiddleston
Handle:twhiddleston

What You'll Find: Well, there isn't too much content since he just created his account in August, but we think he's got some good selfies up his sleeve. And maybe even some pictures with his girlfriend, Taylor Swift?

Photo via @twhiddleston.

Who: Abbi Jacobson and Ilana Glazer of Broad City
Handle: broadcity

What You'll Find: As the official Instagram for duo behind the hilarious Comedy Central series, Broad City, expect to find hilarious memes and epic pictures of the two hanging out.

Who: Nina Dobrev
Handle:@ninadobrev

What You'll Find: Good-bye messages from the set of Vampire Diaries and fun pictures from her La La Land -themed birthday party.

Who: Rashida Jones
Handle:@rashidajones

What You'll Find: Moody selfies, and conversation-starting political posts.

Photo: via @rashidajones.

Who: Zendaya
Handle:@zendaya

What You'll Find: Inspirational messages for her followers and previews of the content found on her app called Zendaya.

Photo: via @zendaya.

Who: Andy Cohen
Handle:@bravoandy

What You'll Find: Goofy pictures with famous guests from his show, epic TBTs, and a little bit of shameless self-promo.

Photo: via @bravoandy.

Who: Ashton Sanders
Handle:@ashtondsanders

What You'll Find: The most epic outfits ever and other entertaining selfies from the rising star of Moonlight.

Photo: via @ashtondsanders.

Who: Busy Phillips
Handle:@busyphillips

What You'll Find: Pictures of her family, her friends, and some epic throwback moments.

Photo: via @busyphillips.

Who: Hugh Jackman
Handle:@HughJackman

What You'll Find: Food, family, and thoughtful messages.

Photo: via @HughJackman.

Who: Christina Aguilera
Handle:@xtina

What You'll Find: Glamour shots from the set of The Voice, pictures from her themed parties, and a glimpse into her private life as a mother and fiancée.

Photo: via @xtina.

Who: Scott Disick
Handle:@letthelordbewithyou

What You'll Find: Pictures of his "crew" which includes Mason, Penelope, Reign, and of course, Kourtney Kardashian. He also notoriously promotes a slew of random products.

Photo: via @letthelordbewithyou.

Who: Paris Hilton
Handle:@parishilton

What You'll Find: Pictures of the heiress' adorable pups, late nights, and glamorous photo shoots.

Photo via: @parishilton.

Who: Jessica Simpson
Handle: @jessicasimpson

What You'll Find: Pictures of her look-alike daughter and growing family, along with some funny memes. (Any Newlyweds fans will remember this iconic line.)

Photo: via @jessicasimpson.

Who: Gucci Mane
Handle:@laflare1017

What You'll Find: The Atlanta rapper has impeccable style, and documents all his looks (and his cars).

Photo: via @laflare1017.

Who: Kris Jenner
Handle:@krisjenner

What You'll Find: The momager's Instagram is the ultimate destination for the Kardashian-obsessed now that both Kim and Kendall have cut back on their prominent social media activity.

Photo: via @krisjenner.

Who: Tina Lawson
Handle: @mstinalawson

What You'll Find: Ms. Tina Lawson has a really great feed full of special moments with her two talented daughters, Beyoncé and Solange. She's probably the proudest mom, ever.

Photo via: @mstinalawson.

Who: Jessica Biel
Handle:@jessicabiel

What You'll Find: Jessica Biel is an actress, a mom, a wife (of Justin Timberlake), and a troll. The woman has it all! Her Instagram feed is full of mom moments and hilarious outtakes from her day-to-day life.

Photo: via @jessicabiel.

Who: Mariah Carey
Handle: @mariahcarey

What You'll Find: Mariah Carey is a pop culture icon. Her personal Instagram page reflects just that.

Photo via: @mariahcarey.

Who: Hilary Duff
Handle:@hilaryduff

What You'll Find: Adorable mommy moments featuring her two loves: her son, Lucas, and her dog, Peach.

Photo via @hilaryduff.

Who: Emma Roberts
Handle: @emmaroberts

What You'll Find: For Scream Queens fans, Roberts is a must-follow for killer behind-the-scenes photos. And (like a true millennial) she loves reposting Snapchat screenshots.

Photo via: @emmaroberts.

Who: Kirsten Dunst
Handle:@kirstendunst

What You'll Find: Throwback pics from her early career (remember Jumanji?!), witty captions, and pictures of her cat.

Photo via: @kirstendunst.

Who: Chance The Rapper
Handle: @chancetherapper

What You'll Find: Chancellor Jonathan Bennett, better known by his stage name Chance The Rapper, has some solid Instagram game. He frequently posts pictures with his famous mentors and friends like Kanye West and Taylor Swift, and even indulges in the occasional mirror selfie.

Photo via: @chancetherapper.

Who: Kanye West
Handle: @kanyewest

What You'll Find: He just created his account earlier this week so there's only one photograph and it's pretty random. Maybe it's a teaser for a new music video project? Now we need him to get Snapchat next.

Photo via: @kanyewest.

Who: Shaquille O'Neal
Handle:@shaq

What You'll Find: Shaq, or Dr. Shaq as he calls himself on Instagram, is hilarious on social media. Just watch his #remixchallenge to Kanye West's "Fade" music video. It's iconic. And of course there's a healthy dose of basketball nostalgia.

Photo via @shaq.

Who: Teyana Taylor
Handle:@teyanataylor

What You'll Find: Pictures of her adorable daughter with Iman Shumpert, her famous friends, and her "Fade" video.

Photo via @teyanataylor.

Who: Jaden Smith
Handle:christiangrey

What You'll Find: A mood board of the inner workings of the actor, artist, and thinker, Jaden Smith.

Photo: Via @christiangrey.

Who: Aubrey Drake Graham, a.k.a Drake
Handle:champangepapi

What You'll Find: Action shots of the rapper on stage as well as behind-the-scenes pictures of him with his October's Very Own (OVO) crew. Also of note: His father, Dennis Graham, has an equally epic Instagram presence.

Photo: Via @champangepapi.

Who: Beyoncé
Handle:beyonce

What You'll Find: Personal photos from family vacations or behind-the-scenes from her tour. It's the only inside look at Bey's life that we get and it's wonderful.

Photo via @beyonce.

Who: Britney Spears
Handle:@britneyspears

What You'll Find: Pictures of things that put a smile on Spears' face. This can range from her children to inspirational quotes to paninis.

Photo via @britneyspears.

Who: Solange
Handle:@saintrecords

What You'll Find: Beautiful snaps of clothing sold on Saint Heron, as well as some adorable pictures of her niece, Blue Ivy.

Photo via @saintrecords.

Who: Taylor Swift
Handle:@taylorswift

What You'll Find: The biggest drama of 2016. And really cute Fourth of July pics.

Photo via @taylorswift.

Who: Chrissy Teigen
Handle:@chrissyteigen

What You'll Find: Teigen's three main loves — her daughter Luna, her husband John Legend, and every type of food.

Photo: via @chrissyteigen.

Who: Ludacris
Handle:@ludacris

What You'll Find: Hilarious videos, memes, and other goofy moments from the rapper, actor, dad, and low-key comedian. He also loves his personal hashtag — #nowthatsludicrous.

Photo: via @ludacris.

Who: Ansel Elgort
Handle:@anselelgort

What You'll Find:Vacation photos, silly singing videos, and an even goofier new app that's just all selfies of Ansel. Funny kid.

Photo: via @anselelgort.

Who: Mischa Barton
Handle:@mischamazing

What You'll Find: Epic #TBTs from her youthful acting days, and current snaps of her life and her cute pup, Ziggy Stardust.

Photo: via @mischamazing.

Who: Sofia Vergara
Handle:@sofiavergara

What You'll Find: Her husband, Joe Manganiello. And delicious food. What more do you need?

Photo: via @sofiavergara.

Who: Lindsay Lohan
Handle: @lindsaylohan

What You'll Find: Snippets of Lohan's day-to-day life, which is anything but boring.

Photo: via @lindsaylohan.

Who: Anne Hathaway
Handle:@annehathaway

What You'll Find: Inspirational messages, celeb photobombs (like the one pictured on a yacht with Valentino), and amazing #TBT posts to those early Princess Mia days.

Photo: via @annehathaway.

Who: Naomi Campbell
Handle:@iamnaomicampbell

What You'll Find: Amazing supermodel throwbacks, fierce fashion spreads, and the most iconic RBF that ever was.

Photo: via @iamnaomicampbell.

Who: Bella Hadid
Handle:@bellahadid

What You'll Find:Glamour shots from editorial shoots, as well as cheeky candid pictures from California hangouts with her equally cool friends and famous family.

Photo: via @bellahadid.

Who: Lena Dunham
Handle:@lenadunham

What You'll Find: Exactly what you would expect from the quirky and always unfiltered Dunham. That would include pictures of her in crazy costumes, Tumblr-esque #TBTs, and inspirational messages.

Photo: via @lenadunham.

Who: Emilia Clarke
Handle:@emilia_clarke

What You'll Find: Glamour shots with goofy captions, selfies with other celebs, but unfortunately no Game of Thrones spoilers...yet.

Photo: via @emilia_clarke.

Who: Chelsea Leyland
Handle: @chelsealeyland

What You'll Find: This Brit DJ always seems to be having the time of her life. From international escapades to stylish videos, her feed delivers both outfit and travel inspiration.

Photo: via @chelsealeyland.

Who: Aziz Ansari
Handle: @azizansari

What You'll Find: Who knew that Aziz had an artsy side? His feed is full of impressive scenic photographs, complemented by some equally impressive captions.

Photo: via @azizansari.

Who: Chloë Sevigny
Handle:@chloessevigny

What You'll Find: An page full of artistic shots, edgy snaps, and cool adventures.

Photo: via @chloessevigny.

Who: Gisele Bundchen
Handle: @gisele

What You'll Find: Glamour shots from her campaigns, behind-the-scenes photos from Chanel photo shoots, and tons of adorable shots of her perfect children, Ben and Vivian.

Photo: via @gisele.

Who: Amy Schumer
Handle: @amyschumer

What You'll Find: Hilarious selfies, backstage moments from Inside Amy Schumer, and some other questionable content.

Photo: via @amyschumer

Who: Blake Lively
Handle:@blakelively

What You'll Find: A plethora of #relationshipgoals photos with Ryan Reynolds, as well as some killer outfits. Lively also likes to share pictures of delicious food, like an extra-cheesy pepperoni pizza. She gets it.

Photo: via @blakelively.

Who: Amanda Seyfried
Handle:@mingey

What You'll Find: Dog pictures. Lots and lots of photos of Seyfried's dog.

Photo: via @mingey.

Who: Rosario Dawson
Handle:@rosariodawson

What You'll Find: Dawson dabbles in a bit of Insta-activism, some Internet memes, and video. All in all, she seems like a she'd be fun to hang out with.

Photo: via @rosariodawson.

Who: Behati Prinsloo
Handle:@behatiprinsloo

What You'll Find: Aside from gorgeous shots from her modeling career, Prinsloo uploads a slew of candids featuring her husband Adam Levine. And, if there's anything great in this world, it's celebrity marriage candids.

Photo: via @behatiprinsloo.

Who: Maisie Williams
Handle:@maisie_williams

What You'll Find: The wonderful musings of a 17-year-old star — like passing a driver's test.

Photo: via @maisie_williams.

Who: Rachel Antonoff
Handle:@rachelantonoff

What You'll Find: A behind-the-scenes look into the well-curated life of one of fashion's funnest designers. Plus, Lena Dunham pops up once in a while.

Photo: via @rachelantonoff.

Who: Annie Clark, a.k.a. St. Vincent
Handle:@st_vincent

What You'll Find: Annie Clark is as close to perfection as one human can get. Her mind buzzes at a different frequency, and getting a peek at what she sees is nothing short of thrilling.

Photo: via @st_vincent.

Who: Shay Mitchell
Handle:@shaym

What You'll Find: The Pretty Little Liar star's Instagram feed is a virtual vacation. You can travel the world in a day just by thumbing through.

Photo: via @shaym.

Who: FKA twigs
Handle:@fkatwigs

What You'll Find: twigs herself is a walking piece of art, and getting a glimpse at how her brain works through Instagram is a treat.

Photo: via @fkatwigs.

Who: Anna Faris
Handle:@anna.faris

What You'll Find: Faris is the type of gal who takes photos with her friend group doing literally whatever, and we are so thankful for that.

Photo: via @anna.faris.

Who: Serena Williams
Handle:@serenawilliams

What You'll Find: Confidence. Pure, unadulterated confidence.

Photo: via @serenawilliams.

Who: Lena Headey
Handle:@iamlenaheadey

What You'll Find: Don't let her Game of Thrones character fool you; Headey is a goofball and isn't afraid to show it on Instagram.

Photo: via @iamlenaheadey.

Who: Michelle Dockery
Handle:@theladydockers

What You'll Find: What, you thought Lady Mary remained in costume all the time? Puhlease! Michelle Dockery's living the good life and sharing it (and her dog), one Insta at a time.

Photo: via @theladydockers.

Who: Michael B. Jordan
Handle:@michaelbjordan

What You'll Find: Jordan's feed is like one big family album: unpredictably heartwarming.

Photo: via @michaelbjordan.

Who: Sarah Jessica Parker
Handle:@sarahjessicaparker

What You'll Find: Sure, the life of Carrie Bradshaw is meant to be fiction, but SJP's Insta-adventures come pretty darn close to her HBO moniker. Though, there's less sex here because, well, Instagram has rules.

Photo: via @sarahjessicaparkerr.

Who: Karlie Kloss
Handle:@karliekloss

What You'll Find: Kloss' star has been rising faster than most. Fame, however, has not gone to her head. Her Instagram spans the gamut of gorgeous fashion shoots and quirky friend vacation snaps to inspirational messages about living your fullest life. It's honest and, despite the filtered images, completely unfiltered in content.

Photo: via @karliekloss.

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Tess Holliday Shared A Brutally Honest Photo About The Pressures Of Motherhood

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As rewarding and wonderful as being a parent is, the reality is that it usually doesn't look anything like the filtered photos you might see on bloggers' Instagram pages or mommy blogs (much as we love browsing through those perfect 'grams). The reality of motherhood is often much messier and grueling, and Tess Holliday isn't shying away from showing us exactly what it can look like.

On Sunday, the model posted a candid selfie to her Instagram page of herself in tears, explaining the "reality of being a mom." Holliday explained that she took the selfie after having been up since 3 a.m., trying to get her son Bowie to go to sleep.

"Every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up," she wrote. "He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it."

This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn't until this morning I realized why. The pressure of "looking good" for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled? Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that's as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome

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"Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today," she wrote. "I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest."

Though this isn't Holliday's first time being a parent, she said that this birth in particular dealt a blow to her confidence because of the pressure to be a working mom and look good doing it.

"The pressure of 'looking good' for a living is too much today," she wrote. "When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it?"

Holliday acknowledged that as a model, she happens to have a career that places importance on "looking good," and she understands that beauty isn't always everything, but her points can resonate for anyone who is a working mom.

"Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry?" she asked. "Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else."

Unfortunately, she's right — motherhood isn't always easy, and it can be made even more difficult by the pressure to "have it all," or to have everything together and fit into societal beauty standards while doing so. Raising a human (or multiple humans) is hard enough, and it's time we stop judging moms who are just doing their best.

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You Have To See Gabrielle Union's New Cool-Girl Haircut

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Gabrielle Union is no stranger to switching up her look. And since she's been in the spotlight for more than a decade (!), we've been lucky enough to see some killer hairstyles from the star over the years. Union's signature look has become of the long, beachy wave variety, but more recently, the actress went outside of her comfort zone in terms of hair length — with a chin-grazing bob. And we have to say, it’s giving us some major hair FOMO.

Photo: SilverHub/REX/Shutterstock.

Somehow, the soon-to-be beauty maven (Union is launching her very own haircare line in March) was able to keep her trendy new cut under wraps for weeks. Her bob debut was back on February 23 at the Essence 10th Annual Black Women in Hollywood Awards Gala in Beverly HIlls. But it wasn’t until she showed up at the annual Vanity Fair Oscars Party on Sunday night that we really took notice — and boy, are we glad we did.

The latest style is thanks to celebrity hairstylist Larry Sims. The pro is responsible for some of our favorite looks from the Oscars this year — including Tracee Ellis Ross and Mary J. Blige, for example — and now he's offering up even more hair inspiration with Union's new style. Her decision behind the major move? Total spontaneity — as with most great cuts. She recently told People, “We were like…‘Let’s go shorter. Let’s go shorter.’ Larry Sims just took a hatchet to it and just hacked it off.” And it all went down just minutes before her arrival to the Essence gala. Union explained that the original plan was to get a lob — something that would merely sweep her shoulders. But immediately after the initial chop, Sims decided to take it even shorter. “I love it. I’m obsessed right now,” Union told the publication. “I didn’t want to leave [the house] because I was sort of staring at it.” Yeah, us too.

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Trevor Noah Just Bought A $10-Million Penthouse (Where's Our Housewarming Invite?)

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If Trevor Noah's new $10-million penthouse isn't the perfect place for an under-the-stars cocktail party, we don't know what is. The Daily Show host closed on the Midtown Manhattan pad, a duplex that spans the 17th and 18th floors of a 1920s skyscraper, yesterday, reports The Wall Street Journal.

The penthouse measures 3,600 square feet and comes with a huge, 930-square-foot terrace that offers sweeping views of the city. The four-bedroom home has 14-foot-ceilings, huge closets, and oak floors. The building itself has a fitness center, a lounge with a piano bar, and an outdoor garden. It's also just a short walk away from the 52nd Street and Eleventh Avenue studio where the comedian films The Daily Show.

According to 6sqft, Noah moved on up from a $15,000-a-month bachelor pad in the same building. So...where's our housewarming-party invite?!

See photos of Noah's not-so-humble abode, ahead.

The penthouse sits atop the Art Deco Stella Tower, which was designed by architect Ralph Walker.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

The eat-in kitchen has quite the counter space.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

We'd wake up to this view every day.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

A lounge area, surrounded by skyscrapers.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

The study, where Trevor Noah probably writes his jokes.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

Not too shabby for a guest room.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

If we had a shower like this, we'd never get out of it.

Photo: Courtesy of Stella Tower.

A night view of the Empire State Building.

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The March Click List: The R29 Entertainment Team's Picks

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Say goodbye to awards show season. It's time to replace all those glitzy red carpets and frothy acceptance speeches with dark, gritty, sometimes terrifying, frequently stimulating pop culture badassery. We're talking about the return of The Americans, bleak dystopian Netflix films like The Discovery, murderous little girls (who we kind of idolize) from the X-Men universe, and a much-needed new true-crime podcast from the team behind Serial.

They say March comes in like a lion, right? Consider these offerings a roaring good time. See what we're obsessed with watching, reading, and listening to all month long.

Morgan Baila, Entertainment News Writer

Logan (in theaters March 3)

As a self-proclaimed comic-book hater, I was floored at how much I loved Logan. The X-Men spin-off takes place inside the same X-Men universe that many viewers have come to know and love, but it focuses solely on the aging and alcoholic Logan, a.k.a. Wolverine (Hugh Jackman), and his relationship with the now bed-ridden Charles, a.k.a. Professor Xavier (Patrick Stewart), in a post-apocalyptic world (ehm, it's 2029, which is kind of concerning). The film appears to have taken a cue from the wildly successful and overly violent Deadpool, and added a little Stranger Things twist by bringing in a pint-sized, ass-kicking little girl, Laura (Dafne Keen) who is my absolute new favorite superhero/mutant. I was able to catch the movie before it hit theaters and I highly recommend going to see it. But don't be afraid to cover your eyes during a few of the fight scenes — it gets pretty gruesome.

Justin Bieber's Birthday(March 1)

Justin Bieber turns 23 on March 1, which means I will spend the duration of the month wondering "What Would Justin Bieber Do?" and thus doing many, many reckless things that only young pop stars would get away with. I plan to: buy a monkey, bleach my hair, get a face tattoo, and delete my Instagram. Happy birthday, Bieber. Be safe.

Sesali Bowen, Entertainment Writer

Time: The Kalief Browder Story (premieres March 1 on Spike TV)

In 2010, a 16-year-old Black teenager was arrested for allegedly stealing a backpack. He was jailed on Rikers Island for three years while awaiting trial, during which time he was beaten, tortured, and kept in solitary confinement for long periods of time. The charges against him were ultimately dismissed. He repeatedly attempted suicide during and after his incarceration, most likely as a result of mental health issues caused by his unfair treatment within the criminal justice system. On June 6, 2015, he ended his life. Time: The Kalief Browder Story asks the most important question of all: Why did this happen? Jay-Z, who met Browder following his release, teamed up with filmmakers to executive produce this six-part series.

Nelly Furtado, Ride (out March 31)

Nelly Furtado is back with her first studio album in five years. My fondest memory of Furtado is still "Promiscuous Girl," but she rarely makes anything I hate. Her voice is unique, and she has an ear for music that aligns with what I like to hear. Here's to hoping that Ride brings back the "I'm Like a Bird" vibes from 2000.

Anne Cohen, Entertainment Editor

Harlots (premieres March 29 on Hulu)

This Hulu original series focuses on a group of 18th-century British prostitutes, so basically it was tailor-made for me. I'm a sucker for any period drama, but add in sex and intrigue — and a really good corset or two — and I'm sold.

Beauty And The Beast(in theaters March 17)

Let's be honest — this will be good even if it's bad. The live-action reimagining stars Emma Watson as a newly feminist Belle, Dan Stevens (a.k.a. Matthew from Downton Abbey) as a sardonic Beast, Ian McKellen as Cogsworth, and Ewan McGregor as Lumiere. Luke Evans will puff out his chest to play Gaston, while Josh Gad embraces servility as Le Fou. I can't wait to be their guest.

Erin Donnelly, Senior Entertainment Writer

SXSW(March 10 - 19)

Hitting up SXSW is a little different when your hometown is Austin and you're mostly praying that tourists avoid your favorite local hangs. Per usual, though, the festival has a ridiculous lineup of premieres, concerts, and speeches, including appearances from the Veep cast and the premiere of Ryan Gosling and Rooney Mara's new film, Song to Song, on tap.

All Grown Up By Jami Attenberg(available March 7)

I can't fly without a riveting book, which is why I'll be hitting up the airport bookshop for a copy of Jami Attenberg's new release. The story follows a thirtysomething woman who struggles to find her place as a single, child-free adult. There's a lot I can relate to there, and I trust that Attenberg's wisdom and wry sense of humor will steer clear of any boo-hoo-I'm-single cliches.

Maia Efrem, Associate Entertainment Editor

Conan Without Borders: Made In Mexico(premieres March 1 on TBS)

With all the negativity and vitriol directed at immigrants and refugees coming out of Donald Trump's administration, this Conan O'Brien special couldn't come at a better time. The series of episodes will feature an all-Mexican crew, audience, and guests. I hope Trump watches, and maybe even learns a thing or two about the nation he's so openly disparaging.

The Arrangement(premieres March 5 on E!)

I'm so excited about this! The show follows two Hollywood actors who enter into a marriage contract. The catch: One of them is part of a cult religion. I don't care what E! says, this show is definitely going to remind everyone of Tom Cruise, Katie Holmes, Nicole Kidman, and Scientology.

Rebecca Farley, Editorial Assistant

Twins: Happily Ever After?(premieres March 20 on Freeform)

I am both embarrassed and not embarrassed to say that I will actively consume anything these Bachelor twins do. My only hope for their spin-off show is that it's not as mind-numbingly boring as Ben & Lauren's short-lived series.

The Rules Do Not Apply By Ariel Levy (available March 14)

There's a special place in my heart and on my bookshelf for memoirs written by women. What's that? A woman? Talking about her neuroses? And how she didn't follow the rules? This one's written by longtime New Yorker staffer Ariel Levy, so here's what I'm expecting: incisive essays on life, love, and being lawless.

Naveen Kumar, Senior Entertainment Editor

The Americans(premieres March 7 on FX)

This FX series has been the best drama on TV since its 2013 premiere, despite having been overlooked year after year by major awards shows. Matthew Rhys and Keri Russell (who are together in real life and had a baby last year) are brilliant as Phillip and Elizabeth Jennings, two Russian spies living undercover in DC as a typical American family. With Cold War 2.0 upon us, it's hard to imagine a more fitting climate for the show's return. Plus, shit is about to get real as their daughter Paige learns more about her parents' double lives. I have literally been counting down the minutes.

Personal Shopper (in theaters March 10)

Being a personal shopper sounds very close to my own personal nightmare, so it feels fitting that this Kristen Stewart vehicle is unexpectedly a psychological thriller rather than a sister film to The Devil Wears Prada. The fact that it's French and set in Paris ups my faith that the film will be able to pull off its ghostly premise with style.

Kathryn Lindsay, Entertainment News Writer

The Last Laugh (in theaters March 3)

Comedy is pretty famously tragedy plus time, but The Last Laugh asks if there’s ever a limit to the scale of tragedy it’s acceptable to find humor in. While the documentary, which stars big comedic names like Sarah Silverman and Gilbert Gottfried, focuses on the Holocaust and discusses how comedians approach taboos, its timing is eerily prescient. In such a politically tumultuous time, how do we find humor — and should we?

S-Town podcast(sometime in March)

While we still don’t know when and what to expect with the third season of Serial, they’re making up for the wait with a new binge-worthy project. It’s called S-Town, and it's the first release from the new Serial Productions company. Unlike its parent podcast, S-Town will be released all in one go. Hosted by This American Life producer Brian Reed, S-Town takes a deep dive into the story of a murder in an Alabama town. It was originally meant for a This American Life segment, but the mystery became so intricate that it spun off into its own show. My commute listening just got a lot more entertaining.

Kaitlin Reilly, Entertainment News Writer

13 Reasons Why(premieres March 31 on Netflix)

I read Jay Asher's novel of the same name several years ago, and it always stuck with me. Today, the themes of sexual assault and bullying seem more important than ever. When I heard that the novel was getting the small-screen treatment, I was curious: How will the story play out over many episodes? Now that I know the series will expand upon the book's narrative into a full-blown teen drama, I'm itching to know if it will be as sensitive (and, frankly, disturbing) as the novel upon which it is based. Selena Gomez is producing the series, and seems to want to confront real teen issues in the drama. Sign me up.

The Belko Experiment (in theaters March 17)

I've never minded gore — the Saw franchise remains one of my favorites of the horror genre. The Belko Experiment is sort of like Saw meets The Purge with a simple premise: Will a group of coworkers kill a certain number of their peers in order to survive? My fingers are crossed that there's some thoughtful commentary underneath all of that bloodshed.

Molly Stout, Entertainment Director

The Discovery(premieres March 31 on Netflix)

I'm a sucker for anything remotely similar to Black Mirror. This film, which premiered at Sundance this year, imagines a not-so-distant future when the afterlife has been scientifically proven. Eerily, this leads to millions of suicides. Equally eerie is the presence of Rooney Mara, who could recite the phone book and still give me chills.

Amy Schumer: The Leather Special(premieres March 7 on Netflix)

Brand-new Amy Schumer jokes? Yes, please. Schumer has joined the elite comic ranks of Dave Chapelle and Louis C.K. in the new comedy heaven known as Netflix, and we are officially busy that night.

Carolyn L. Todd, Entertainment News Writer

Feud: Bette and Joan(premieres March 5 on FX)
Like The People v. O.J. Simpson, Ryan Murphy's juicy new anthology draws on a legendary real-life scandal — with a touch more glamour. Feud recreates the storied face-off between Hollywood icons Joan Crawford (Jessica Lange) and Bette Davis (Susan Sarandon), whose bitter rivalry came to a head on the set of their 1962 movie What Ever Happened To Baby Jane? Lange and Sarandon are riveting — and the themes of sexism and ageism are unnervingly relevant decades later.

Life (in theaters March 24)
This mysterious sci-fi horror flick, about six astronauts on the International Space Station who discover a rapidly evolving form of extraterrestrial life that ravaged Mars, is kind of a gamble; it's largely been kept under wraps. But with the writing team behind Deadpool, serious Alien vibes, and a starry cast — including Jake Gyllenhaal, Rebecca Ferguson, and Ryan Reynolds — I feel good about it.

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The Best Movies For Getting Over Your Ex

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Our goal here is simple: to help you curate the perfect Rolodex of movies that will help you deal if or when things with your loved one fall apart. And, to help us in our quest for catharsis, we’ve consulted the very academic Kübler-Ross model of handling grief, which divides the process into five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance (because, above all else, we here at Refinery29 are nothing if not academics, of course).

There are many different types of breakup movies: the ones that are actually about breakups in the literal sense and the ones that deal with the different stages of breakups metaphorically. For instance: (500) Days of Summer. That’s about breakups. The Hours, on the other hand, is about handling grief, an emotion that occurs after any loss — especially the loss of a relationship. Because a list of breakup movies exists around every corner of the Internet, we’re digging deeper into the films that will help you cope with those separations in a far less overt but no less helpful way.

Movies, above all else, are therapeutic. The best ones allow us to relieve, relive, or re-evaluate our most tender experiences in a way that no other art form can. Click through to see our picks for the films that will aid you in getting through every one of those five stages — and straight on to renewal.

Sliding Doors(1998)

In one version of reality, Gwyneth Paltrow’s character makes it onto a subway car by a second. In another version of reality, she misses the train. Following her down both paths, the movie envisions how her lives go on different tracks from that split-second instance. It’ll remind you of life’s unpredictability, and how this period of pain might be paving the way for something better down the line.

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The Reader(2008)

Hey — at least your ex wasn't a former Nazi guard who finds herself on trial for the murder of hundreds of innocent people.

Crazy Stupid Love (2011)

When life throws you a lemon, toss it, and go make out with Ryan Gosling.

To Have Or Have Not (1944)

Channel your inner Lauren Bacall and go out on the town. You don't need anyone to tell you what to do.

Fifty Shades Of Grey (2015)

Take heart in the knowledge that though you may be single, you aren't dating a sociopath with a penchant for painful sex.

Pride & Prejudice (2005)

Any version of this Jane Austen classic will do the trick, but we suggest the 2005 adaptation starring Keira Knightley as Elizabeth Bennett and Matthew Macfadyen as a very broody, very sexy Mr. Darcy.

The Graduate (1967)

Breakups are tough. But the guy you're seeing cheating on you with your mother? That's some heavy shit.

2 Days In Paris (2007)

No matter how painful the breakup, it's probably better than introducing your non-French speaking American boyfriend to your sexually-liberated parents and a slew of exes.

Sometimes, schadenfreude is the best remedy for heartbreak.

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Bridesmaids (2011)
If spending time with your best friends is a crucial part of getting over an ex, then why not spend it with a group of fictional characters who are sure to distract you from your pain for at least two hours? Plus, if you just got out of a crappy relationship, it's helpful to see what a good one looks like. (Sup, Chris O'Dowd?)

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Great Expectations (1998)
Yes, in the end, Finn and Estella end up together, kind of. But Finn spends his entire life being punished by Paltrow's Estella and the Miss Havisham-styled Anne Bancroft, and he leads himself to incorrectly believe he can make himself be what she wants. In this version of Great Expectations, Finn denies that Estella is only there to break his heart, and it's true: Estella is only won when no one else wants her.

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

Brooklyn (2015)
Sometimes, the hardest part of a breakup is starting over. It's learning how to get up in the morning and not talk to your former partner and how to make plans that involve only yourself. As such, this can also be the most depressing part of a split. So, if you need an affirmation that you will come out the other end of this a better, more confident person, watch Eilis immigrate from Ireland to 1950s New York.

Photo: Fox Searchlight Pictures/Photofest.

Celeste & Jesse Forever (2002)
They say you should marry your best friend. But what if you marry that person only to realize that you're better off as, well, best friends? This movie explores that heartbreaking grey area between a friendship and a relationship. Watch it. Cry a lot. Feel better about your breakup.

Photo: Moviestore/REX/Shutterstock.

Silver Linings Playbook(2012)

There’s nothing sadder than watching someone refuse to accept the end of a relationship, but that’s what makes the burgeoning romance between Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence’s manic lovebirds so darn powerful. It's only once Cooper’s character learns to let go of the woman who abandoned him that he can see the woman who’s standing right in front of him.

Photo: Courtesy of The Weinstein Company.

An Unmarried Woman(1978)

Another man-leaving-for-a-younger-woman tale, this snapshot of New York in the '70s doesn't just address the end of a relationship but the sexual liberation of women as well. Jill Clayburgh, who was nominated for an Academy Award for this role, goes through the same five stages of Kübler-Ross outlined here, but she emerges from the other side empowered — and sexually fulfilled.

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

She-Devil(1989)

Imagine the premise of The Other Woman, except, instead of the pretty and palatable Cameron/Leslie/Kate trio, you have a maniacal Roseanne Barr with an angry mole. After being treated horribly by her husband, Barr's Ruth goes after her husband's four assets — home, family, job, and freedom — taking down the campy, WASP-y Meryl Streep (who is in true comedic form), who stole her husband. Brutal, evil, and demonstrative that hell hath no fury.

Photo: Courtesy of Orion Pictures.

My Best Friend's Wedding(1997)

Watching Julia Roberts play a woman who wants what she can’t have is like watching a cow go swimming. It’s not supposed to happen. But, as a lifelong careerist pining for her best friend as he plans his, duh, wedding, Roberts convinces us that falling in love with the wrong person is just as hard as it sounds.

Photo: Courtesy of TriStar Pictures.

Chinatown(1974)

Watching Jack Nicholson’s bandaged gumshoe roam through Roman Polanski’s bleak depiction of postwar Los Angeles is just as depressing as it sounds. This classic neo-noir — in which the rich get richer, the disenfranchised drown, and corruption is rampant — is a staunch reminder that the world we live in is a scary, scary place.

Photo: Courtesy of Paramount Pictures.

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind(2004)

Have you ever wished you’d never met the person who broke your heart? In Charlie Kaufman’s oddball romance, Joel Barrish (Jim Carrey) has that wish granted via a mysterious procedure in which the memories of his ex-girlfriend (Kate Winslet) are erased. It’s only then that he realizes the love they shared was worth the loss, but simultaneously, we are destined to repeat our same mistakes — no matter how good our intentions may be. Sometimes, love is just not enough.

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(500) Days of Summer (2009)

Who else but Zooey Deschanel's crush-worthy manic pixie dream girl could take a man’s heart and totally pulverize it? In Marc Webb’s refreshing take on the rom-com, that man is Tom (Joseph Gordon-Levitt), a hopeless romantic who must suffer the pains of a disintegrating relationship, before he emerges clear-eyed on the other side.

Photo: Courtesy of Fox Searchlight.

Postcards from the Edge (1990)

Adapted from Carrie Fisher's true life story about getting clean and heading back to acting, Suzanne (Meryl Streep) has to sober up in order to continue with her film career, which means confronting sleazy producers, coming to terms with her overbearing mother, and dealing with addiction. Messy Meryl is both earnest and darkly dry. The film has a wise assumption: Many of us have dysfunctional relationships with our mothers, and the sooner we realize it, the sooner we can start laughing.

Photo: Courtesy of Columbia Pictures.

Blue Valentine(2010)

Derek Cianfrance's autopsy of a relationship-gone-bad is a staunch reminder that all things fall apart. Please forgive us for our doom-and-gloom perspective, but after watching Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams trade gut-punch after gut-punch as a couple caught in a downward spiral, we're sure you'll agree. Relationships. Are. Hard.

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Desperate Living(1977)

Within the first half-hour of this grating, disgusting, absolutely filthy John Waters film, Mink Stole curses out children, kills her husband, and goes on the lam with her lesbian lover. This pic teems with an urgent sense of discomfort and proves that bad guys get what's coming to them, often up their own butts. Literally.

Photo: Courtesy of New Line Cinema.

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Forgetting Sarah Marshall(2008)

Yes, this is the one where Jason Segel gets naked. But, he bares a lot more than his private parts as a lovelorn sound mixer forced to get over his famous girlfriend (Kristen Bell). He kicks and screams and begs and pleads for her back, before finally realizing they were never meant to be. How does he get there? Two words: Mila Kunis.

Photo: Courtesy of Universal Pictures.

The Hours(2002)

One of the things this Oscar-nominated film does so well is depict the complex, isolating nature of depression. And, not just depression, but, particularly, feminine depression. Three different women, three different time periods, and one emotion connecting them all. The film is a deft reminder that, despite any perceived evidence to the contrary, no one is really alone.

Photo: Courtesy of Paramount Pictures.

Heathers(1988)

"I just killed my best friend."
"And, worst enemy..."
"Same difference."

Of course, we aren't advocating any sort of accidental-murder crime spree here, but Heathers is the perfect reminder that sometimes the people stuck in your life are the ones who are the most poisonous. And, nothing feels better than Winona Ryder telling the psychopathic Christian Slater that all she wants is "Cool dudes like you out of my life."

Photo: Snap Stills/REX/Shutterstock.

Breaking the Waves (1996)

We don't normally turn to chronic pessimist Lars von Trier for tales of redemption, but in this mesmerizing tearjerker, he puts Emily Watson's fragile, young Bess through an emotional firestorm before bringing her back via a spiritual epiphany that will stay with you for days, months, and years.

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Legally Blonde(2001)

There is one major takeaway from Legally Blonde: The best revenge is busting your ass to challenge yourself, meeting your goals, exploring new ventures, and not changing who you are in the process. So, you know, do that.

Photo: Courtesy of Metro Goldwyn-Meyer.

War of the Roses(1989)

No, this isn't about pre-Tudor England, but about a couple with a seemingly perfect marriage that begins to fall apart. Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner bitterly turn on one another and harness their possessions, pets, and, um, chandeliers to destroy the other. Spoiler alert: It works, and it is darkly, morbidly hilarious.

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

How Stella Got Her Groove Back(1998)

Terry McMillan's life-affirming tale of a middle-aged divorcée (Angela Bassett) who (what else?) gets her groove back is the kind of movie that will convince you that sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side. Especially when the other side is made up of a wise-cracking Whoopi Goldberg, the sun-drenched island of Jamaica, and Taye Diggs with his shirt off.

Photo: 20th Century Fox.

To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything, Julie Newmar(1995)

While this movie has no real romance (Chi-Chi's fling hardly counts), the lesson is powerful: You are who you are, and grace, class, and a sense of goodness are the best ways to be fabulous. That, and a "Say Anything Hat Day."

Photo: Courtesy of Universal Pictures.

The First Wives Club(1996)

Yes, this movie does work on the premise that, after a certain age, your husband will probably leave you for a younger woman, which kind of sucks. But, it also affirms the power of a womanly bond and what happens when determined, strong women focus on something other than men.

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Up(2009)

The opening montage of Pixar's modern classic is admittedly one of the most devastating sequences ever put on film. But, after our curmudgeonly widower develops an unlikely friendship with a pudgy Boy Scout, our faith in humanity is restored.

Photo: Courtesy of Walt Disney Studios.

Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone(2001)

Thematically, this is a story about beginnings. Just think about what a magical journey Harry (and film fans) have ahead of them. Let's all take the opportunity to start again.

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Chasing Amy(1997)

Ben Affleck's Holden ends the movie by actually bargaining with his best friend and his girlfriend, offering a pretty stupid solution for all of the tension between them. And, the thing is, you can't persuade anyone — especially yourself — to accept the one you love.

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Waitress(2007)

This poignant tale of redemption features Keri Russell as a stuck-in-neutral baker who finds new life in the form of a handsome doctor (Nathan Fillion) and a bun in the oven. No, not the kind that's cream-filled, but the kind that takes nine months to be done.

Photo: Courtesy of Fox Searchlight.

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The Easy Hack You Need To Pull Off This Runway Makeup Trend

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When you're in a beauty rut, it's a little like looking in your closet and seeing absolutely nothing to wear. Sure, you have the bones to create a killer look — a bold liner here, a bottle of texture spray there — but sometimes you just need a boost of inspiration. That's why we created Short Cuts, a series of quick, easy-to-follow videos meant to educate, empower, and excite the beauty nerds in all of us. Whether you're looking to learn something new or to refresh your current routine, there's a Short Cut for you.

New York Fashion Week may be over, but we're still swooning over all the makeup looks we saw on the runways. One of our favorites? The bold, color-blocked eyes we spotted at shows like Prabal Gurung and Desigual.

We decided to try out the trend — but not without a foolproof tape hack to make it much easier. Check out our take in the video above.

Step 1. Place a one-inch piece of tape on the bridge of your nose. This will act as your guide as you're etching on your graphic eye.

Step 2. Trace a green cream shadow along the side of your nose (where you placed your tape) and extend the color into your crease in a wing-like shape using an eyeliner brush.

Step 3. Gently peel off the tape and finish off the look with a few coats of black mascara. (Pro Tip: If you make a mistake, dip a cotton swab in makeup remover and clean up any blurry edges.)

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